BlahBlahQueen Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 so are you saying that she should tell him upfront that unless he grows back his hair/gets a toupe' (or on the other one, shaves the mustache) she will not go out with him? or should she suppress her own feelings and accept him as he is? Either/or. She needs to decide between either honest alternative. Either she accepts it from the get-go, or she rejects it from the get-go.
lshawnl Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 If you have to ask this question already, either you subconsciously know that you will not be satisfied with him as he is. He will probably not be able to meet some "need" that you have. Personally, I think you may be focusing on the wrong things. I understand attraction should be first. It sounds like you are not attracted to him really. If you say that you are, then you may be making excuses why you are avoiding the relationship. Ask yourself the important questions. Does he have a sense of humor similar to yours, is he dependable, honest, communicative. These qualities will be a far better long term investment than whether or not he has good hair. Once you settle in with each other, you won't see the hair (unless you're hung on on it and then you probably won't have time to settle in with one another) but you will see lies, avoidance, and non tangible qualities that you wished your partner had.
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