Reality6001 Posted January 12, 2006 Posted January 12, 2006 Got a question. I just got out of a 12 year relationship, and am in the middle of divorce. I want to go out and have some fun, and there is a guy at work who interests me. I'm 34 and he's 25.Do younger guys really go for older woman? I'll explain the situation,we work the same hours, and we talk a everyday, he's nice to talk to and look at. It seem like he interested because every time I look up he's looking my way, and yesterday one of his friends asked one of my friends whether I was going out Saturday and if so where. Now, I never talked to thiat guy, who asked about me. Do guys do this, send others over to ask about person if there interest? I guess I've just been out of the main stream awhile, and need to learn again. Can someone please give me some insight? Thanks in advance, Reality
helena abadi Posted January 12, 2006 Posted January 12, 2006 absolutely, younger men go out with older women. been there, done that, bought the t-shirt. loved it. they also have long-term relationships with them, and some couples even marry. sometimes the age difference is a problem, particularly if the younger man is really young, but if he's aged mid-20s, then he's reasonably mature and fewer difficulties should arise. maybe he's a bit shy about approaching you, and sent his friend to test the territory. in any case, it looks as though you will find out soon. what a lovely compliment, to have a younger man interested in you. i hope he's a nice guy, and in the event you do go out on a date, that you really enjoy it. don't feel uncomfortable about being seen with him in public. the older/younger dynamic is more common than you think. but if you have any degree of discomfort, talk about it with him, and make the date in a location that is comfortable to you both. it's always a bit nerve-wracking getting back into dating after a divorce, and you are wise to be cautious. good luck. 1
Author Reality6001 Posted January 12, 2006 Author Posted January 12, 2006 Thanks, that was quick, your right he is a bit shy, but I think outside of the work he'll open up. Thanks for advice, It's wierd you know, I am normally a very strong confindent woman, but this is a little nerve racking. My friends will be with me, and I'm going to try a go with the flow and have a good time no matter what?
helena abadi Posted January 12, 2006 Posted January 12, 2006 your friends will be with you, on the date/social outing? is it a mutual group, or will he be outnumbered by your friends?
lilmoma1973 Posted January 12, 2006 Posted January 12, 2006 Yes alot of older women do date younger men!! My sister is in her late 30's and she tells me all the time she would rather be with a younger man than an older one because they are more considerate to your feelings and much better lovers in her expierence.. I have always dated guys a couple yrs older than me .. I did have the hots for someone younger one time but never pursued it .. We talked as friends and ate where i worked in the mall ,but that is as far as it went ..Sure was exciting and adventurous .. He seemed my age the way he acted and would have probably pursued him futher but worked things out with my ex .. I guess i will never know
Author Reality6001 Posted January 12, 2006 Author Posted January 12, 2006 No, all the people that are going are from work ,and he knows them, too. So that's why I think it should be fun either way. Any ideas how to let feel the situation out?
Author Reality6001 Posted January 12, 2006 Author Posted January 12, 2006 Everyone will be from work, so he will know everyone, too. That's why I think it will be fun either way. Any suggestions how to feel out the situation if he does show up? My only thought is to buy him drink and talk to him.And just have a good time, and see what happens.
helena abadi Posted January 12, 2006 Posted January 12, 2006 well, if you're in a mutual group, it's a safe forum in a way. not too close too fast. some people aren't comfortable about coworkers knowing they're thinking about dating a coworker. office gossip and all that stuff. but there will still be enough opportunity to know if there's chemistry and potential. flirting and cementing mutual interest can be as subtle as prolonged eye contact and a bit of conversation.
Author Reality6001 Posted January 12, 2006 Author Posted January 12, 2006 That's exactly what I'm thinking. Sounds like you and I think a like. And to be honest, if something does start, I would rather it not be put on display at work. Anyway, i'm putting the cart before the horse, and we'll see wht happens..
helena abadi Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Ive been out of touch for a week. Am interested to know how your evening went. Hope it went well.
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