My longest relationship lasted around 2-3 months and it was my first at the age of 21. Is that a red flag?

[QuirkyNoteInSymphony]

I'm 28 now and I only had casual flings that lasted few days to few weeks since then.

[basil67]

Not enough info to comment.   Can you tell us more about yourself, your life and your dating?

[QuirkyNoteInSymphony]

2 hours ago, basil67 said:

Not enough info to comment.   Can you tell us more about yourself, your life and your dating?

There's no more info, thread title and my post is all there is to my romantic life.

[basil67]

The length of time you've been single is not necessarily a red flag.  It's the reasons why you've been single all that time is where the red flag may be.  This is why I asked for more info.  

At this point, if the way you've written your initial question and response is a reflection of your OLD conversational skills, then yes, it's a red flag...I think I can speak for most women when I say they want men who can hold up their end of a conversation.   

There could be other red flags too, but we can't tell you if you won't converse

Edited April 15 by basil67

[Gebidozo]

Of course there should be more info.

Red flags are people’s characters and motives, not mere facts of their biographies.

If you only had casual flings because you are chronically unable to commit to a monogamous relationship, then yes, it would be a red flag to anyone looking for a committed monogamous relationship. If you only had casual flings because you never met the person with whom you’d want to stay together forever, then no, in itself that wouldn’t be a red flag.

It’s impossible to give you an advice here because all the context and the details are missing.

[basil67]

Likewise, if you have a good reason of commitments to family/work, it's not a red flag.   You were caring for your sick mother?  Not a red flag.   You were doing a medical residency and working 16hr shifts? Not a red flag.

Need more info

[ShyViolet]

Ok so you are 28 and have never had a relationship last more than 3 months.  Yes I would say that is a cause for concern and calls for some serious introspection.  What do you think the barrier has been to you being able to have a real relationship?