Hellfire Posted January 12, 2006 Posted January 12, 2006 I dont want a girlfriend that has had sex, and I look at alot of girls as being sluts : |. In my opinion they are... I posted a topic about this girl who her sister likes me, but I dont like the sister I like her. She didnt even admit to me that she liked me, but to my friend she did, and she said that she didnt want to get into a relationship with me because of her sister. Now she's going out with this guy and it's just making me sooo mad.... Im not saying she's a slut, because I dont really know :-\, but she has had sex once, and she lied to me about having sex. I dont know if it's her having had sex once before that kind of turned me off of her, or her lying, but that just makes me all the more mad at her! PLUS the fact that she will probably have sex with this guy she is going out with right now .
cygny Posted January 12, 2006 Posted January 12, 2006 and i guess you are a virgin and plan to be until you get married?
Author Hellfire Posted January 12, 2006 Author Posted January 12, 2006 I am a virgin, but I dont know about planning until marriage :|. I use to want to wait, but I dont even know anymore...
whichwayisup Posted January 12, 2006 Posted January 12, 2006 Define in your own mind what slut means to you. Like if a girl has already slept with one guy? Or two? Does that make her a slut? What about your guy friends...Do you think any of them are cool if they've had 2 or 3 women? I'm just trying to clarify your thinking pattern here. I understand the girl that you like has gone out with someone else, and her reasoning of not going out with you is because her sister liked you. Am I correct on that one? If so, I commend the sister for not going out with you because sister bonds are pretty special. And also, it's none of your business WHO she has slept with and how many times. That is her own private business, she doesn't owe you an explanation. Sorry to sound harsh.
Author Hellfire Posted January 12, 2006 Author Posted January 12, 2006 you dont sound harsh at all. It's just a girl who has sex for sex, not for the relationships. Past that I cant really define it. It's just a state of mind I guess I need to get over, right? :| And no I dont think any of my guy friends are cool for having alot of women I hate guys that use girls. I know it's her private business, but I dont know it's just in my view virginity represents innocence.
Walk Posted January 12, 2006 Posted January 12, 2006 I agree with WWIU. Who, and how many guys, she's slept with is none of your business. At all. Especially if she knows your views on women who've had sex.. even if only once. You put her in a corner and expected the truth? She either tells you she's slept with someone and therefore you'll see her as a slut, or she lies and tells you no one. You set yourself up for a lie, or a slap in the face. Pretty judgemental of you to say a woman is a slut after having intercourse even once. A bit extreme.
Author Hellfire Posted January 12, 2006 Author Posted January 12, 2006 I guess I just am old fashioned! I just feel if I am a virgin I at least deserve a virgin, right? I know I probably put myself in this place . I JUST WISH I KNEW HOW TO GET HER I dont care how many guys she's had sex with .
whichwayisup Posted January 12, 2006 Posted January 12, 2006 you dont sound harsh at all. It's just a girl who has sex for sex, not for the relationships. Past that I cant really define it. It's just a state of mind I guess I need to get over, right? :| And no I dont think any of my guy friends are cool for having alot of women I hate guys that use girls. I know it's her private business, but I dont know it's just in my view virginity represents innocence. You are right, virginity does represent innocence, but with that being said, tolerance and understanding has to come into play too. This girl could be the most loving, wonderful person...To say she's a slut and write her off isn't fair. What if she judged you, or anybody else for that matter, for being a virgin? I think you wouldn't really like that because you are who you are and only want to be accepted and appreciated. Anyway, I do agree with you, it's not cool that guys use girls for sex and if girls use guys for sex...But it happens in life. At all ages. I don't want to come off preachy so if I do, that isn't my intent...I can say in life you will run into TONS of different people with different ideas about life and how to be. Just because someone makes a choice to enjoy sex and not be committed to one person doesn't make them a bad person...It is what makes them happy and as long as nobody is getting hurt, it is okay. Keep busy and try to not let your mind drift to this girl. Lots of fish in the sea for you!
Author Hellfire Posted January 12, 2006 Author Posted January 12, 2006 I guess I set myself up for it. My friend told me that she was afraid to get into a relationship with me, and that she would get hurt, because she knew about my views. She also never told me about her sexual experience before. Yea so, thankyou guys, im going to try and correct things, and take down my blog about my views : | THANKYOU
JS17 Posted January 12, 2006 Posted January 12, 2006 Just try to remember that we are human. It might help you to be less judgemental. 1
whichwayisup Posted January 12, 2006 Posted January 12, 2006 You're welcome HB! Keep an open mind, enjoy the little things...Who knows, maybe things will change in the upcoming months. Maybe get to know her as a friend for a while...Hang out and just be friendly. Good luck and keep posting!
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