Best friend moving away

[theRTRP]

I first met my best friend in August 2023. Her mom was critically ill and I was working for the hospital where ahe was admitted. When her mom was sent home we talked occasionally, I checked in on her mom. However, it wasn't until March 2024 that she messaged me asking me to visit her mom at home, not as a friend but a therapist.

Since then our friendship grew, she invited me to her mom's 93rd birthday in June and we have been inseparable since like we've known each other all our lives. We'd go on vacations together. We have weekly sleepovers. Movie dates.

I have been praying for this kind of friendship, where you can just be yourself, no judgement. Instant and deep connection. Our friendship transcended time and age, we are 3 decades apart. 

Since her mom's passing in November 2024, she told me that she will be staying more abroad where her husband is as she no longer has a reason to stay here. I thought she meant she'll be coming back at least once a year. March 2025, she comes back for a wedding. She brings uo her staying abroad for good. No guarantees when she'll return, could be years. 

I've been struggling with this fact. I question why did we become so close so fast if we were only meant to separate? What if the constant distance and our lives moving in different directions break us apart? What if I lose her?

[basil67]

Yeah, my best friend moved away a few years ago.  I tried my best to stay in contact but she built a new life in her new area and we are rarely in contact now.   It sucks

[theRTRP]

I'm so sorry to hear that. That is what scares me the most. Making friends is easy for her because she's so kind but I've never been the social kind. 

[flitzanu]

time apart and distance apart isn't what breaks friendships, if it is as deep as you say it is, none of that matters.

just because you aren't in near proximity doesn't make you less friends.