Struggling and losing hope

[AshleyyS]

Hey F20, I feel like I’m drowning in the chaos of life. Love seems so far out of reach; every relationship I try slips through my fingers like sand. I thought I'd have someone by now, someone who would understand me, but instead, I just feel lonely and unworthy. On top of that, my finances are a mess. I work two jobs, but it's never enough. Every month, I juggle bills, and the constant stress of living paycheck to paycheck weighs on me. It’s hard to feel hopeful when it feels like everything I want—love, stability, peace—just keeps slipping further away. I keep trying, but some days, it feels like I’m failing at everything. Is their anyone else whos experienced what I am right now and if so how've you dealt with this because it's so overbearing some days?

[FredEire]

I think a lot of people feel like this, of all ages.

But the great news for you is that you're 20! You're only starting life and you have many more years ahead of you.

Just go out there and keep trying and failing, and try and learn a lesson from each one. At such a young age it's completely normal to make mistakes, you just need to keep it in mind that life is only beginning and enjoy the process whatever it brings.

[Gebidozo]

Well, when I was a college student in my early 20’s, I was so poor that I could only afford one meal a day in the university’s canteen. I had two sets of clothes and washed them with my hands in a dinghy dorm bathroom that was shared by a crazy guy who was stealing stuff from other students.

When I was 30 I got divorced for the first time, lost a very nice job, and was completely jobless for a year. I had no idea where to go, what to do, or what my future would be.

When I was 34, I already managed to get married and divorced again in between, on top of that my then-wife prevented me from seeing my son, went to another country with him, and I didn’t see him or talk to him for 10 years afterwards.

About two years ago, my then-girlfriend of 7 years broke up with me. I thought of leaving the country I’m in now and start all over from zero somewhere else.

I’m close to 50 now. I have a great job but much of it is freelancing and the pay isn’t completely steady or guaranteed. I’m in the best relationship of my life now, and it’s still in its early stages.

Life throws you up and then it throws you down and then up again and so on. Get used to it and try to see every struggle, stress, loss, and misfortune as an opportunity to learn and to get stronger, wiser, and better.