Missed opportunity. regret

[FredEire]

9 hours ago, George81 said:

Thanks everyone and @Fredaire for some good advice.  Her daughter was just young about 5.  I saw her in the car park when her daughter was already in the car, and thats when im now regretting not saying hi.

@els but what if say she is a single parent with limited or no opportunities to socialise.  I have been a single parent for years its lonely and hard going.  If I was out with my young daughter and someone said hi in a nice conscientious way, and maybe suggested a drink I wouldnt feel an ick for that person, but would be pleased to have been even considered to be asked to go out, even if i declined.

I can see how me seeing this as a missed opportunity is causing me the regret but its difficult for me to not see it this way as I cant explain it, like I knew this person my whole life, like we had bumped into one another again. Ive taken the advice and kept my head up and smiled at people as I wondered through town today.  Low and behold they are smiling back at me and im happy to be on my way.  But its not like what happened on Saturday.  Has no one ever had this?  Possibly only once before for me but not as strong as this.

A couple of years ago I had a date with a girl and had a connection with her that felt so powerful it was like I was high. This is so special I though, it's so powerful that surely she must be feeling it too.

We kissed on the date which seemed to confirm my idea at the time, unfortunately I had to go away for three months, but we kept talking and eventually we went on date number two, which I had massive expectations for.

Long story short she turned up in a bad mood, the date was weird and she freaked out about not being able to find a good place to eat and stormed off. I was left heartbroken because of my lofty expectations about someone I didn't know, and I realised then that the connection I felt was there, but it was only that special on my end. It's not always like the movies unfortunately, that's why it's important to check yourself and keep yourself grounded at the beginning. For you it might be love at first sight, for her it might be "meh" or just s lot less.

Edited April 8 by FredEire

[George81]

13 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Right, but the reality is that she was a stranger you had never met. You also have no idea if she had the same feeling. 

Try not to dwell on something that was a purely hypothetical. 

Keep up with this. You never know what connection you might make doing so

Thank you - yes I will do.