Phxbook13 Posted April 1 Share Posted April 1 I met this girl on a night out—we talked for about an hour, and I got her IG. The next day, I DM’d her to get food, but she had other plans. We didn’t talk again for months until I posted something from her city, which led to us making plans. Eventually, we went to a Cardinals game together. I picked her up, and we met up with her friends that happend to be going, but we had our own seats and grabbed food alone after. When I dropped her off, she mentioned coming back for another game in a few weeks and asked about my plans that weekend. I also told her I wanted to take her to a Coyotes game, and she said she was down. When she was back in town, she hit me up the day before, letting me know she was here and wanted to meet up. We met at a bar with her friends, and later, she invited me to their Airbnb, where we all hung out the rest of the night. The next day, she said she wasn’t a fan of my city but would come back for the Coyotes game. A few weeks later, she DM’d me a restaurant she wanted to go to when she returned. We didn’t talk much after that, but around the holidays, I said Merry Christmas, and she responded, saying she missed me and needed to come back. Around this time, I asked her out, saying, “I know it’s far out, but when you’re in town, can I take you out?” She said yes thats sweet and that the wait would be worth it. Since then, we’ve had consistent conversation every few days. She’s also started liking my stories and added me to her close friends (not putting weight on that, just something I noticed). I haven’t brought up the Coyotes game since the first time—she’s always the one mentioning coming back and trying to find dates, though plans have fallen through due to other commitments. Each time, she genuinely tries to reschedule, but it’s usually tied to another event she’s wanting to attend and other commitments come up ( Shes active on social media so i can confirm they are real) At one point i forgot the context and situation dont feel like scrolling back but i said id still love to take her out. She hearted the message and said " Im a kind soul or something" bad sign in my opinion. A friend recently suggested I tell her, “Why do you have to come up for that event? Come up to see me.” I didn’t send that but he kind of has a point. A few days ago, she said she was anxious about making the game work with her friend’s event back home since she’d have to leave right after, which defeats the purpose of taking her out. I told her not to worry about it if it was too much as im kind of over the back an forward with she did apologize for the other week says she still trying to come and will let me now soon. Now she said she’ll be in town this weekend for something friday. That she can leave early or late Saturday so either way. I was hoping to take her out after or do something since it would be early evening but now before the game is the only option. I plan to say, “If you’re down, I’ll grab tickets—just wanna make sure it’s something you actually want to do. If so, we can grab food and drinks before the game.” A girl I’ve known forever thinks she’s playing games. My main thing is figuring out if there’s actual interest. I tend to overthink, and I don’t want to misread things anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted April 1 Share Posted April 1 Nope there is no interest. An interested girl would make a strong effort to be with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Phxbook13 Posted April 1 Author Share Posted April 1 (edited) 51 minutes ago, smackie9 said: Nope there is no interest. An interested girl would make a strong effort to be with you. Thank you for your response. I dont intend to keep this up long. In your opinion how would i go about this response wise. I know we would be cool but i rather be direct about it. *edit without burning the bridge and i did invite her to this before even considering asking her out Edited April 1 by Phxbook13 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 1 Share Posted April 1 Forgive me if I've misread, but it appears you're wanting her to keep coming to see you and it all seems to be based around games. She's basically a game buddy. IF you want more, you need to make an effort to go see her. If you want romance from this, ask her on a date in HER city where there's no game involved. You go to her, and continue going to her as often as she comes to you 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FredEire Posted April 1 Share Posted April 1 Seems like you're her attention buddy. I think if she were really interested it would have developed into something in your first interaction. She makes the odd flirty comment because she likes the thought that someone is into her, but it doesn't sound like she feels the same way back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Phxbook13 Posted April 1 Author Share Posted April 1 1 hour ago, basil67 said: Forgive me if I've misread, but it appears you're wanting her to keep coming to see you and it all seems to be based around games. She's basically a game buddy. IF you want more, you need to make an effort to go see her. If you want romance from this, ask her on a date in HER city where there's no game involved. You go to her, and continue going to her as often as she comes to you I think over all your right. Also im cool with her coming as I only invited/ brought it up to her once and she was the one always bringing up coming up with a time to come. Either way im skipping the game and think it might be too late to date her in her city. Thank you for the response Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 1 Share Posted April 1 43 minutes ago, Phxbook13 said: I think over all your right. Also im cool with her coming as I only invited/ brought it up to her once and she was the one always bringing up coming up with a time to come. Either way im skipping the game and think it might be too late to date her in her city. Thank you for the response Of course, you're cool with her coming. It's no effort on your part! Why do you think it's too late to ask her on a date in her own city? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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