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Blossom13

I'm in a Ldr which has been a whirlwind. When we are good its beautiful. However we've had a few arguments because of my overthinking. He gets very frustrated because I get upset with a way he's acted or something he's said. I'm so worried about getting hurt I get quite cold in these instances which results in him getting frustrated and hurt and goes quiet on his end. 

When he goes quiet and distant it feels like he doesn't care and he's checked out which gets in my head more. 

I'm new to Ldr is this something alot of ldr relationships go through? If so what can we do especially myself to stop this becoming a regular thing? 

I'm scared I'm pushing him away with it.

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ExpatInItaly
11 minutes ago, Blossom13 said:

However we've had a few arguments because of my overthinking. He gets very frustrated because I get upset with a way he's acted or something he's said.

Can you give us some examples of things he says or does that upset you? 

12 minutes ago, Blossom13 said:

I'm so worried about getting hurt I get quite cold in these instances

What do you meam? Do you ignore his messages? Not tell him what's bothering you?

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BaileyB

I’m curious to know a few more details - how long have you been dating? Have you met this person in real life? How often do you see each other in person? 

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