daterhater Posted January 11, 2006 Posted January 11, 2006 My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. Although we only live 40 minutes from eachother, with our schedules and need for saving money, we rarely see eachother. It's almost like I don't have a boyfriend outside of the internet/phone and it's really starting to get me down. I'm finishing up my last semester of college and after college, will move to his town and find work. Ever since we started dating, I lost all but two friends in town. Unfortuately, both of those two friends have boyfriends and work and school, so I see them once ever other month. The guy friends I lost, while i miss their company, are not good guys to be around when i have a boyfriend. they go way beyond flirting and i think it would **** with my mind to see a flirty guy friend 5 days out of the week while i only see my boyfriend once a month. anyway, losing these friends, living alone, and having ZERO social life in my town is making me extremely depressed and lonely. all i do is go to school, my job at a lonely computer lab, then come home. my boyfriend never visits me because of his work schedule, so the only way i see him is if i drive there and stay over night on weekends. i'm sick and tired of driving there, packing my life up here, unpacking, packing, etc. he also just got a roommate who is always around. because of this, our sex life is pathetic. he's too scared to have sex with him in the house unless it's short, quiet sex that doesn't make the bed shake. oh, but blowjobs? to stop being depressed and not count on my boyfriend, i have gone home to visit my parents on several occassions. now i have a 7 day break from school which i thought would be perfect for getting quality time in with my boyfriend. i put my foot down and said i would not drive to visit him. if he wanted to see me, he'd come visit me. but, he said he'd only stay for a day and a half. i told him not to bother and that i'd spend those 7 days at my parents house where i'm guaranteed no loneliness for 7 days rather than no loneliness for a day and a half. SORRY SO LONG. ONE MORE THING I feel like I'm missing out on a LOT of things a relationship has to offer. Because I visit him only on weekends, seeing eachother is like a short holiday. it's his day off from work, so he'll sleep in til past 2pm and at night we end up going to bars. we've never taken trips together. we've never "done lunch" over his work break. we've only been to two movies in 7 months. we don't go on walks. we weren't together on new years eve. he's not there for me during the week when i come home from a bad day at school and want nothing more than to fall asleep with him to make me feel better. he's not there for me when i wake up and get ready for school. is this worth breaking up over so i can have these things? that is what i'm trying to figure out. i am in love with him, but i'm so ****ing frustrated by how little i see him and how little i'm getting out of this relationship in our current locations.
Author daterhater Posted January 11, 2006 Author Posted January 11, 2006 haha, i'm sorry about my cussing. now i feel like a dork for having so many *'s in there. i guess i didn't realize how much i cussed till i see a post of stars.
cygny Posted January 11, 2006 Posted January 11, 2006 why do you say you need tips for salvaging this? it sounds like you aren't getting anything out of this relationship and you are giving up alot for it. break up with him and find a boyfriend who can spend time with you in your own city. or date around some. if you are looking for a magic trick to turn him into a boyfriend who gives you what you want, i don't think you'll find it. this will keep going on until you get sick of it and leave.
Author daterhater Posted January 12, 2006 Author Posted January 12, 2006 why do you say you need tips for salvaging this? it sounds like you aren't getting anything out of this relationship and you are giving up alot for it. break up with him and find a boyfriend who can spend time with you in your own city. or date around some. if you are looking for a magic trick to turn him into a boyfriend who gives you what you want, i don't think you'll find it. this will keep going on until you get sick of it and leave. it's worth salvaging because i'm in love with him! he is my soul mate! it's just not easy to work things out when i only see him three days out of the month! it's driving me crazy because i want to live with him, go to bed with him each night, etc. etc. i can't do any of this and don't know how to stop myself from becoming depressed by this fact!
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