snailbee Posted March 20 Posted March 20 I met this girl three months ago. At first, I didn’t have any feelings for her, but after two months, I realized I had developed feelings. We had several "dates"—just the two of us going to the beach to watch the sunset, going to town, walking in nature, and doing similar things. She was physically close to me, often making jokes about sex and telling me she liked it. She also asked about my past relationships. One of our mutual friends told me that she had mentioned being ready for a relationship and that I should ask her out. However, since I was very inexperienced with romance, I didn’t act on it and just kept going on these "dates." Over time, I noticed she became even more physically close to me. She would take pictures with our cheeks touching. When we met at her house, she would sit so close that our shoulders were touching. We talked about very personal topics, and she helped me with various things. Eventually, she decided to return to her hometown because she knew what she wanted to do next in life. Before she left, we watched the sunset together, and she told me it felt different this time—almost like we were in another dimension. She also joked about how guys tend to be extremely romantic while girls just want to have sex. Since she was moving away, I didn’t have the courage to do anything. However, I noticed that our goodbye hugs were lasting longer than usual. On her last day, just before her bus arrived, I wanted to let her know how I felt, but I chose a very indirect way. I told her that the feeling I had during the sunset wasn’t about the place—it was mostly about her. She responded by saying that at least I know where she is, that traveling is much easier now, and that distance doesn’t mean much. We hugged for a very long time, and then she left. Since then, we’ve been texting and calling each other. She’s been sending a lot of kiss stickers and emojis. When I send flirty texts, she reacts with blushing emojis or pictures of her reacting to them. But now, I feel like maybe I was just seeing signs where there were none, simply because I have romantic feelings for her. I should have been direct with her from the start and made things clear. Now, when I talk to her, I feel like a fraud. Should I just call her and talk about it?
basil67 Posted March 20 Posted March 20 I don't know. Given how forward she was, I'm surprised she didn't just grab you and kiss you! But I guess she was waiting for you to do *something* I guess you could call her and talk about it now, but she's moved away so what's the point? 1
glows Posted March 20 Posted March 20 When you say you feel like a fraud, what do you mean? She already knows you like her. It’s obvious. if you want to date her then ask her out on a date and plan something together. That will really get the message through and you’re spending time in person. I’m reading this like her hometown is an hour away by the way. How far is it?
Acacia98 Posted March 21 Posted March 21 11 hours ago, snailbee said: But now, I feel like maybe I was just seeing signs where there were none, simply because I have romantic feelings for her. What? How on earth can you think this after everything you've described?
ExpatInItaly Posted March 21 Posted March 21 (edited) It couldn't have been clearer that she liked you, OP. I think she was waiting for you to make some sort of move. When you didn't, she was probably confused about your intentions and wondering if you even liked her back. You could talk to her now, yes. But ask yourself first whether the distance would be too much of an obstacle or not. Edited March 21 by ExpatInItaly
smackie9 Posted March 22 Posted March 22 She's been serving everything to you on a silver platter...what more do you want? get off the pot and go see her, and kiss her for f sakes. It will change everything!
justwhoiam Posted March 22 Posted March 22 This must be a new level of "taking it slow". Are you in love with her or do you just miss her company now? That's the question. Regarding her feelings, yes, she obviously likes you. But would she want to go steady with you? Not sure. I guess she really wanted to be intimate with you. She was probably waiting for a move from you, like others said. Then maybe based on the level of connection, she could have fallen for you badly or gotten cold feet. But you didn't show interest. How do you go on multiple dates and not a kiss? How old are you?? And how far away is she now?
Author snailbee Posted March 22 Author Posted March 22 (edited) Okay I talked with her she said she did feel something. But not anymore since she moved . She said thank you . I told her I need time to continue our friendship and we should contactless. I don't know how I can deal with we could be together but are not because I dit not make a move. She said she thought I was not interested. I want to talk to her more but I guess I should not thank you for replies everyone. Is it crazy to think she can change her mind Edited March 22 by snailbee
Acacia98 Posted March 22 Posted March 22 (edited) I've had to rewrite this post because I misunderstood your question. I have no idea whether she would change her mind. But I think that, for your own sake, it's best to assume she wouldn't. Edited March 22 by Acacia98
Interstellar Posted March 22 Posted March 22 (edited) EDIT: Op answered question. Response deleted Edited March 22 by Interstellar
glows Posted March 22 Posted March 22 3 hours ago, snailbee said: Okay I talked with her she said she did feel something. But not anymore since she moved . She said thank you . I told her I need time to continue our friendship and we should contactless. I don't know how I can deal with we could be together but are not because I dit not make a move. She said she thought I was not interested. I want to talk to her more but I guess I should not thank you for replies everyone. Is it crazy to think she can change her mind You said she knew what she wants to do next in her life in your first post so I’m guessing moving back home clarified things for her. An ldr might not have been something she sees herself in and became realistic about the distance. I completely agree staying friends isn’t a good idea because you still have feelings for her.
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