DatingTIDgirl Posted March 19 Share Posted March 19 What is it like to date/marry a girl with dwarfism, specifically pituitary dwarfism. I’ve known her for quite a while, and I’m curious as to if dwarfism would affect dating. She is around 3‘8“ tall, but she has a huge heart, honestly and truthfully, she is very sweet caring. When it comes to holding hands when we’re out and about, how exactly would one go about this comfortably? The same thing goes for hugging/kissing. When we go in for a hug or a kiss, what is the best way to go about this? Like I said, she is super sweet, and I can ask her questions, but I’m not too familiar with the dwarfism and I would just like some pointers in addition to what I ask her. We’ve spent a lot of time together, usually at each other’s residences, and this time we were going to go to dinner for a date night, and to the movies after. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DatingTIDgirl Posted March 19 Author Share Posted March 19 I’ve known this girl for quite a long time, and we are about to go on our second date night, she haspituitary, which is a type of dwarfism. I know this is quite some time down the road, but how is marriage when your partner has dwarfism? Excuse me if this is asking too much, but what is it like in the bedroom, we both briefly discussed that we want to have kids, does dwarfism affect any of those activities? I always ask her questions, but if anyone is currently married to someone with dwarfism and has any advice that they would like to share that would be great. Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted March 19 Share Posted March 19 There are numerous TV shows about dwarfism and relationships, eg: 'Dating Different', and 'Little People, Big World', so you could watch those and get some idea of what to expect. If you want to know about bedroom activities with a dwarf just get on the internet and look. There was a dwarf woman who worked in our local supermarket and she seemed perfectly normal to me apart from her tiny frame. I often heard people speak to her in that condescending way that adults speak to children, and I asked her once if it gave her the s**ts when people did that, and she said, "F**k yes! But I'm used to dickheads." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author DatingTIDgirl Posted March 20 Author Share Posted March 20 1 hour ago, MsJayne said: There are numerous TV shows about dwarfism and relationships, eg: 'Dating Different', and 'Little People, Big World', so you could watch those and get some idea of what to expect. If you want to know about bedroom activities with a dwarf just get on the internet and look. There was a dwarf woman who worked in our local supermarket and she seemed perfectly normal to me apart from her tiny frame. I often heard people speak to her in that condescending way that adults speak to children, and I asked her once if it gave her the s**ts when people did that, and she said, "F**k yes! But I'm used to dickheads." I wanted to get some real opinions. I love her and don’t want to make this awkward. Or uncomfortable. Obviously I am going to ask her, and respect her. I would dislike to get others experiences when they for example, go in for a hug or a kiss, or when they hold hands etc. Like I said I know that I can ask her, but I would at least like to have some knowledge as far as that goes before our date. I couldn’t find any of this hence me asking online Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 (edited) This is above LoveShack's paygrade If you want information online, you'd be far better off going to a forum which is about little people. I've been here a very long time and I've never seen mention of experience as a partner of a little person Edited March 20 by basil67 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 (edited) You’re dating her not her dwarfism though right. If you’re that close why do you worry about offending her or doing the right/wrong thing. Why not discover those intimate details together rather than hearing about how other people do it? You may be too obsessed about this issue and making it more about her being a dwarf rather than in love with her as a person. I’d think she’s so much more than just that and she can tell you what she likes which is so much more important than what other people are doing. Edited March 20 by glows Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 7 hours ago, DatingTIDgirl said: I wanted to get some real opinions. I love her and don’t want to make this awkward. Or uncomfortable. Obviously I am going to ask her, and respect her. I would dislike to get others experiences when they for example, go in for a hug or a kiss, or when they hold hands etc. Like I said I know that I can ask her, but I would at least like to have some knowledge as far as that goes before our date. I couldn’t find any of this hence me asking online Some things are always going to be impossible because of height difference. Maybe go in for the big smooch when you're sitting side by side, in the car, at dinner, on the couch watching a movie, there's plenty of scenarios. Having lived with it all her life I'm sure she has no illusions about the difficulties she faces because of her height, and maybe if you tackle it with a bit of warmth and humour it might alleviate any awkwardness. Have a look at Steven Merchant's account of his love life, he's 6'7", (or thereabouts), and he sees the funny side of the romantic difficulties caused by his height, there's really no need for it to be an elephant in the room or for you to feel anxious about it. Are you worried that her size might make things weird? Just bite the bullet and talk to her about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DatingTIDgirl Posted March 20 Author Share Posted March 20 12 hours ago, MsJayne said: Some things are always going to be impossible because of height difference. Maybe go in for the big smooch when you're sitting side by side, in the car, at dinner, on the couch watching a movie, there's plenty of scenarios. Having lived with it all her life I'm sure she has no illusions about the difficulties she faces because of her height, and maybe if you tackle it with a bit of warmth and humour it might alleviate any awkwardness. Have a look at Steven Merchant's account of his love life, he's 6'7", (or thereabouts), and he sees the funny side of the romantic difficulties caused by his height, there's really no need for it to be an elephant in the room or for you to feel anxious about it. Are you worried that her size might make things weird? Just bite the bullet and talk to her about it. I am worried about that a little bit. For example when I pick her up or drop her off, typically when you see people (like when they open the door and y’all are both standing on the porch), if this is a romantic partner, typically y’all would hug and give each other a kiss. But what is the correct way to give her a kiss and a hug when we’re both standing up like at the front porch or whatever? Yes I can give her kisses and hugs when we’re sitting side-by-side, but I mean like whenever we’re saying goodbye or whatever. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DatingTIDgirl Posted March 20 Author Share Posted March 20 How would you personally slow dance with your girlfriend if they are 3‘8“ and you are 5‘11“? I am trying to plan activities for our date on Friday, we are possibly going bowling, and or dancing, then for sure dinner and a movie afterwards. if anyone has any experience or advice that would be great. Also, I can tell that she wants to cuddle together, and during the movie I’m expecting this to happen, we shall see. What does it like to cuddle and snuggle up with someone who’s a lot smaller than you? What exactly should I expect? Link to post Share on other sites
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