sleepingman Posted January 11, 2006 Posted January 11, 2006 Hi everyone! I'm new here. I am hoping this would be a good place for me to seek adivce. Well since I am posting here heres my story...(oh btw, if this is in the wrong section...I'm sorry) I was about 15 when I first met this girl in a forum. Being the kid that I was I was thinking about hooking up with her. She is from Boston. She was 14. After a couple of days PMing her in the forum I finally mustered up the courage to talk to her on AIM. I did, the conversation was typical. Nothing special. I found out she had a younger sister in the forums as well. She was around 11 or 12. I thought she was cute but I was more interested in the older sister. After talking with the older sis, I wanted to know more about her but she was sorta shy talking about her self. So I decided to talk to her younger sister about her. We did. Found out things she never told me. After a couple of years I was still talking to both of them. After a while I started to talk to the younger sister a lot. We were all friends still. After many heart breaks I started talking to the younger sister more personally. I talked to the older sister once and a while. Still friends. I started falling for the younger sister after 3 years. Didn't really make a move until the 4th year. The 4th year I got her to like me alot. And vice versa. We sent pics and texted each other. The 5th year is where things started to change, which is presently. The beginning of this year we started calling each other. After I called her at a bad time is when things started going down hill. After a couple of sent mail and few serious talks she started to not like me anymore. I promised I'll move there to Boston but she said that there was other things than that. While all of this was happening I started to talk to her older sister again. Finding out things and having someone to talk to. I am starting to fall for the older sister again, but I am suppressing that feeling because I care about her younger sister alot. And still do. After today I found out she doesn't like me like that anymore and would not give me a chance. I feel like my heart just stopped and shattered. But after all that I thought to my self that I could try with the older sister. Then again if I move to Boston and spend time with the younger one she might like me again. I care about both of them. Me and the younger sis... It seems like we can only be friends, but I don't want to accept that until I acutally try. And with her older sister....I am thinking about being more than friends, but I don't know if I should. Stay as friends with the younger one and try with the older one, or stay as friends with the older one and try again with the younger one. I don't know what to do. I know what you guys might be thinking. About the age difference. I hope you guys don't think of me as a bad person. Anyways any advices from you guy would be greatly appreciated. I've tried talking to other people about this but the people I talk to aren't really experienced in this kind of thing.
confusedandcrazy Posted January 11, 2006 Posted January 11, 2006 This may sound stupid, but give up on both of them. If i did the math right, you are about twenty and the younger sister is about 17. Why worry yourself now about things like hookin up and gettin married. You yourself need to become a better person and find whatever it is that you want to do for the rest of your life. Granted, by taking the "road less traveled" you may have to deal with the what might have beens, and if something were really meant to be with you guys, then it will happen. If you go into this relationship confused about yourself, and she's confused, how do you know later on that it will work. Hope my advice isn't totally off the wall and there will be someone else to back me up on this.
Citizen Erased Posted January 11, 2006 Posted January 11, 2006 This may sound stupid, but give up on both of them. If i did the math right, you are about twenty and the younger sister is about 17. Why worry yourself now about things like hookin up and gettin married. You yourself need to become a better person and find whatever it is that you want to do for the rest of your life. Granted, by taking the "road less traveled" you may have to deal with the what might have beens, and if something were really meant to be with you guys, then it will happen. If you go into this relationship confused about yourself, and she's confused, how do you know later on that it will work. Hope my advice isn't totally off the wall and there will be someone else to back me up on this. Yeah Im sorry to say it but I have to agree with confusedandcrazy on this one. You cannot move somewhere for a person when you are unsure of your feelings for them and when you are so young. Plus, if I am correct, you have never met them right? If things are meant to happen then they will. BTW I loved the little reference to Robert Frost. I hate that poem, I had to study it for English!!
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