ND1990 Posted March 15 Share Posted March 15 (edited) I live in the UK. I’ve been in a relationship for just over 3 years. At the end of Feb this year, I went to Australia on my own to visit my best friend and his mrs whom I’ve not seen since they left the UK. I stayed with them in their apartment to keep costs down and was there for only two weeks before flying home. My partner drove me to the airport on the way there. I had an amazing time with my friends there and we were busy all day every day but I still checked in with my partner once a day, despite the 11 hour time difference. I thought about her every day. It was always me reaching out and her responses were blunt and brief and showed no interest. I knew she was busy working a lot and has her own kids so has plenty on so thought nothing more of it. Then I get back and some family picked me up on Monday. I slept to get over the travelling and jet lag and saw family on Tuesday then chilled til Thursday when I went back to work. We had already planned before I got back to see each other on Saturday (today) but she has been off with me since and apparently it’s because I didn’t ask to come see her straight away like Tuesday or Wednesday when I got back. But usually we don’t see each other during the week as we don’t live together yet and she has busy work days and evenings so even though I wanted to see her straight away I didn’t bother asking as I expected her to not want to. Apparently she assumed I would come see her Tuesday and now is upset with me for not doing so even though we have planned stuff together for Saturday (today). Am I in the wrong here? Edited March 15 by a LoveShack.org Moderator title Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 15 Share Posted March 15 14 hours ago, ND1990 said: so even though I wanted to see her straight away I didn’t bother asking as I expected her to not want to. So you both wanted to see each other but neither of you communicated it due to making incorrect assumptions about what the other wanted. I think you'd be wise to frame this situation as both of you needing to work on communicating what you want 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 (edited) You've been in the relationship for THREE years, and it took you 6 days to meet up with her after you get back from a 2 week trip?? Even though you had 2 days off work when you were back home????? I dunno what to say, man. On the one hand, yes she should have talked to you about wanting to see you. On the other hand, I daresay that in the vast majority of 3+ year LTRs, this is a thing that just... doesn't need to be said. You'd naturally want to meet up soon after being apart for 2 weeks, and if you had 2 days off work it would be a no-brainer for most people to spend a small part of those 48 free hours with the person they presumably love. At the very least, they'd offer and see if their partner was up for it. Truthfully, at first I skimmed your post and missed the duration of your relationship, and I thought, "Well, I think she's being unreasonable since his post sounds like they've only been casually dating for a couple of months." Then I saw that you said you'd been together for 3 years... What exactly are you looking for out of this relationship? Do you think it matches up with what she wants? Edited March 20 by Els Link to post Share on other sites
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