Throwawaywife Posted March 11 Share Posted March 11 A couple days ago I caught my husband having inappropriate conversations with women on Tik Tok where he told several of them that he’s married, but open to relationships or “whatever comes my way”. He claims they weren’t real women, but catfish and he likes to play games with them. He likes when they ask him for money and he strings them along until they get angry. He did the same thing right before our wedding and promised it would never happen again. During an argument today he said, “I want somebody who has my back”. I think that indicates he’s really thinking about starting another relationship. Who says, “somebody” when they are already married”? I believe he may have been playing games with some of them, but would have cheated if the right one came along. He told them his real age, real first name, where he lives and works, and his job position. Of course, all of them said they were much younger than me. I think him saying he wants “somebody” reveals the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 11 Share Posted March 11 He's obviously completely full of horse manure. But even if he weren't and this crap were true? 3 hours ago, Throwawaywife said: He claims they weren’t real women, but catfish and he likes to play games with them. He likes when they ask him for money and he strings them along until they get angry. That isn't something a normal adult does to kill time. I would be done with this man. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 11 Share Posted March 11 5 hours ago, Throwawaywife said: he told several of them that he’s married, but open to relationships or “whatever comes my way”. I would take this in the manner that it was intended, as truth. 5 hours ago, Throwawaywife said: He claims they weren’t real women, but catfish and he likes to play games with them. He likes when they ask him for money and he strings them along until they get angry. This is the best defence that he could come up with? It’s idiotic! 5 hours ago, Throwawaywife said: He did the same thing right before our wedding and promised it would never happen again. Apparently, he is not truthful. 5 hours ago, Throwawaywife said: During an argument today he said, “I want somebody who has my back.” I would have pushed that back on him and said - “SO DO I.” 5 hours ago, Throwawaywife said: He told them his real age, real first name, where he lives and works, and his job position. Meaning, he disclosed your contact information to women he has never personally met whom he was antagonizing at best and grooming to have an affair at worst - putting your personal safety at risk by his risky and inappropriate behavior. I would make the decision for him - he would be free to pursue other woman on TicTok to his hearts content after I filed for divorce. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Georgia46 Posted March 11 Share Posted March 11 He sounds like he wants attention elsewhere! but lots of random strangers on TikTok? giving out personal details like that is super silly, tell him he’s got one last chance or your booting him out the door. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted March 12 Share Posted March 12 Would I believe him? Hell no. He's hanging around on an app talking garbage to random women and trying to weasel some casual sex out of it, and then lying about it in an attempt to make you feel bad for calling out the fact that he's an immature, disrespectful s**t-for-brains. I love that this deluded halfwit wants "someone who has his back" - by his definition does that mean he wants someone who sleazes around behind said back? You have my condolences for being married to him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 12 Share Posted March 12 (edited) 20 hours ago, Throwawaywife said: During an argument today he said, “I want somebody who has my back.” I think that indicates he’s really thinking about starting another relationship. For what it’s worth, I think that means he wants someone who will believe his horse manure or possibly tolerate the fact that he is communicating with women online and seeking casual sex. He’s going to be disappointed - not many women will “have his back” on this. Jayne hit it on the head - I think you have all of our condolences for being married to this fool. Edited March 12 by BaileyB 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 13 Share Posted March 13 That's the stupidest reason I've ever heard. If it's really just about trolling, why isn't he catfishing men as well? If you believe this, OP, I've got a whole beach's worth of sand to sell you... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
heartwhole2 Posted March 19 Share Posted March 19 No, I would not. And even if I did believe him that he's "just" catfishing them, then he's . . . a liar (he told you it would never happen again) whose hobby is wasting time in pointless manipulation with strangers online? That's somehow acceptable? Sounds like a throwawayhusband to me. I don't think it really matters if he's planning to cheat on your right now with someone from TikTok. I think what matters is that he is not a safe person who will certainly cheat on you, or betray you in some other way, if you stay. Link to post Share on other sites
The Big Leon Posted March 30 Share Posted March 30 as a man, I know he’s lying! Please do not believe him. He’s trying to trap you and his lies! He’s probably se*ting with them and trying to manipulate them as well. He’s trying to find something platonic or erotic pleasure. If he does it on TikTok, and probably does it on Instagram and Facebook as well. Or any social media. This man needs help. And you know, he’s gonna do it again, because he has done it before, and will continue to do it until he gets professional help. Keep your eyes open please. Link to post Share on other sites
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