crystal m Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 Not sure where I should post this so i'll just do it here. Long story short, husband had what I believe to be an emotional affair with an older woman. They both swear that nothing was going on between them other then just being friends (see my post "husband calling older woman on cell phone" over on infedelity board). Well its been about a month now since I called and confronted her about this. There has been no contact between them since then. However husband has talked to her boyfriend. They want me to get 4 tickets to the George Strait concert in Feb so that we can all go together. She wants to meet me and say "i'm sorry, hope we can be friends,etc" I'm not sure that I'm ready for this. I'm still having trouble dealing with the fact that hubby lied to me so much about their relationship. He said that he knew that If I met her I would know from the start that they were both telling the truth. Do you think I should meet her? I'm not sure I can controll myself if she ticks me off tho, and that worries me. And if husband says the wrong thing during this meeting i'm afraid that something bad might happen. At this point I do not believe that I could even take a joke about the 2 of them. I'm afraid that I'll go into a jealous rage and make an a$$ out of myself. Just not sure what to do, help please!
Citizen Erased Posted January 11, 2006 Posted January 11, 2006 If you feel that you will break down then you are clealy not able to confront this woman, let alone in public. If your H gives you problems if you choose to say no then he needs to learn compassion. He cannot really expect you to be alright with this?
whichwayisup Posted January 11, 2006 Posted January 11, 2006 I think your husband and this lady are fooling themselves by involving you two now so far after the fact. It's like they are saying "We are friends and you two have to accept it" (Meaning you and her boyfriend) So, let's get together and be merry! Woo Hoo! See? She ain't that bad and look, we all get along, let's do this again soon! I could be wrong, but something in me isn't sitting right after knowing the cell phone situation. Maybe nothing physical happened, but they did get close on an emotional intimacy level...Which I am sure you will pick up on if you see them talking. Do what is right for you. Listen to your gut and don't let him talk you into going if you feel uncomfortable.
Author crystal m Posted January 13, 2006 Author Posted January 13, 2006 Thanks for your replies. I still have a lot of thinking to do before I decide what to do. I really really want to believe my husband about this entire situation and I'm thinking if maybe I meet her then it would put my mind at ease. But then again I know its going to be a very tense situation and If i'm going to see George Strait I want to enjoy myself (huge fan!) and not worry about anything else. I'll post back later and let you know what I have decided to do. Thanks all for your advice.
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