It is normal /no normal to be offended about partner's not giving the visa?

[Mariaaqa6]

My partner and I have been together for  a bit more tha 1 year and a half 

We pay 50/ 50   things  except wifi plan and water  ( he pays around 50 dollars a month more than what I pay) 

I do all of the cleaning , shopping, keep the place in order. 

We moved in together last October 2024

I think I'm a good women 

So , he lives in Australia ,he  got a permanent residency trough his job.

I live in Australia and got an student visa 5 years ago . The company I work for is seeking to sponsor me but it is the fisrt time company is doing it so we start the process months ago And waiting the migration agent to lodge my visa.

So my partner has suggested me that if the job sponsor is not possible,  to look into a refugee visa (very offensive because I dont need it) or keep studying (being studying for more than 4 years now  and im tired)

Why dont he  shut  up his mouth or offer me to stay with his visa ( he knows this is an option but he doesnt want to)

 

It is normla to feel annoyed?

Am i being entitled?

 

Thanks

 

Edited March 7 by Mariaaqa6

[NuevoYorko]

I'd be concerned.   If he sees a future with you,  one would think that he'd do what he could to assure your ability to stay in the same country with him.

[Gebidozo]

 

5 hours ago, Mariaaqa6 said:

Why dont he  shut  up his mouth or offer me to stay with his visa ( he knows this is an option but he doesnt want to)

Why are you talking about him in such a tone?

How can you stay with his visa? You aren’t officially married, are you? If you asked him to do marriage visa or something similar, of course he’ll feel pressured after only being less than 2 years in a relationship.

Getting married for the sake of visa convenience is really not a good idea. I think it’s normal that he suggests to try everything else first and leave marriage visa as the last resort.

[basil67]

15 hours ago, Gebidozo said:

Why are you talking about him in such a tone?

How can you stay with his visa? You aren’t officially married, are you? If you asked him to do marriage visa or something similar, of course he’ll feel pressured after only being less than 2 years in a relationship.

Getting married for the sake of visa convenience is really not a good idea. I think it’s normal that he suggests to try everything else first and leave marriage visa as the last resort.

FYI Australia doesn't require marriage for a partner visa.  Defacto is acceptable

[Els]

On 3/7/2025 at 11:37 AM, Mariaaqa6 said:

We pay 50/ 50   things  except wifi plan and water  ( he pays around 50 dollars a month more than what I pay) 

I do all of the cleaning , shopping, keep the place in order. 

Well, this alone is concerning enough. If you're splitting the bills, you should be splitting the housework 50/50 as well.

On 3/7/2025 at 11:37 AM, Mariaaqa6 said:

I live in Australia and got an student visa 5 years ago . The company I work for is seeking to sponsor me but it is the fisrt time company is doing it so we start the process months ago And waiting the migration agent to lodge my visa.

So my partner has suggested me that if the job sponsor is not possible,  to look into a refugee visa (very offensive because I dont need it) or keep studying (being studying for more than 4 years now  and im tired)

What he says isn't untrue (the job market in Aus isn't great at the moment, and also work visas have been curtailed significantly in recent years - if your company has never sponsored anyone before, it's likely they won't even get government approval).

That doesn't change the fact that he's not acting like a committed partner of 1.5 years. He seems to be taking you for granted - you pay half of his bills, you do all the housework. It sounds to me like he's just happy to coast along with this sweet deal without wanting to invest anything of his own into your relationship.

I'd seriously rethink staying with this person.

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How can you stay with his visa? You aren’t officially married, are you? If you asked him to do marriage visa or something similar, of course he’ll feel pressured after only being less than 2 years in a relationship.

Australia only requires that you have been living together in a genuine relationship for 1 year - which they have already been doing. Marriage isn't a requirement.

Edited March 9 by Els

[BaileyB]

On 3/6/2025 at 7:37 PM, Mariaaqa6 said:

Why don't he  shut  up his mouth or offer me to stay with his visa ( he knows this is an option but he doesn’t want to)

Why does he tell you that he doesn’t want to let you stay with his visa? 

And, what’s with the attitude? Do you talk to your partner this way, or are you just showing your displeasure in your post? 

 

[ExpatInItaly]

On 3/7/2025 at 2:37 AM, Mariaaqa6 said:

Why dont he  shut  up his mouth or offer me to stay with his visa ( he knows this is an option but he doesnt want to)

Is this how you usually speak to him?