Brittanyjean06 Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 I'm sure all of you can tell that i am waiting to here from my ex- i try not to think about it- but its been 5 months- yeah they have a new girlfriend- and hasn't talked to me?? we went out for 2 1/2 years---- do some ex's never speak again?? that would be very werid-? right
witabix Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 Not for me Brittanyjean06. Not at all. I have had no contact with my last ex for nearly a year. The previous SO has had no contact with me for nearly ten years, maybe more. We even have kids, who are in contact with me, but we (Me and my ex) don't speak. Because we have nothing to speak about. It is not wierd. At least I don't think so.
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted January 10, 2006 Author Posted January 10, 2006 well i meen its werid when you still love them- and you just got out of a relatinoship with them and than don't speak for a long long time- that hurts
witabix Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 You haven't moved on then? He has, you have to accept this. He has a new gf, how would it look to her if he was still in contact with his ex?
In Sync Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 You haven't moved on then? He has, you have to accept this. He has a new gf, how would it look to her if he was still in contact with his ex? Damn Good Point! Pay attention to that one Brittanyjean06.
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted January 10, 2006 Author Posted January 10, 2006 I knowwww I know- if only i was strong enough- I will try harder but its too painful sometimes- i can't believe this will feel this way for like the next TWO YEARS ughhhhh
JS17 Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 i can't believe this will feel this way for like the next TWO YEARS ughhhhh Who says you will feel this way for two years?!?!?! Just take however much time you need to get back to feeling like yourself.
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted January 10, 2006 Author Posted January 10, 2006 well with the obssession i have always had for him, and how much i adored him just feels like i will never truly be able to let go- THat just feels like this now- but you are right who says i will be feeling like this in two years-
RainyDayWoman Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 many, many exes never speak again. this is quite often indicated by the prefix "ex". i doubt you will even think twice about it in two years.
In Sync Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 well with the obssession i have always had for him, and how much i adored him just feels like i will never truly be able to let go- THat just feels like this now- but you are right who says i will be feeling like this in two years- How old is this guy, your ex?
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted January 10, 2006 Author Posted January 10, 2006 18- almost 19 and i am almost 18
fallenheart45 Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 Brit...let me see your face....come on...let me see it! I've already seen it, your a beautiful girl! Trust me! when you hit college.....man....this stuff will be a breeze...u may not think it now, but trust me. If I was there, I would pay attention to ya!
sick of it Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 so...cliche....my ex wanted to stay friends...when i mentioned "Im sure **** wouldnt like you and me talking or being friends (her new bf)" to which she replied "if he has a problem with it, ill tell him to take a walk"......she hasnt reached out to me.....what does that mean?
In Sync Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 Brittany you are young and beautiful and yes you will get over this guy. I'm not defending him, for hurting you, but he too is young..and was ready to explore and be with another. You have suffered enough. You're so beautiful and have been lucky enough to have had a first love that lasted so long...Now be a beautiful butterfly and spread your wings....Trust that you will love again.
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted January 10, 2006 Author Posted January 10, 2006 Thanks so much! everything here is so kind and thoughtful with their words- thank you all so much- i had the biggest crush on this kid even before i went out with him- i meen LIKE CRUSHED hard- cried yada and everything- i get so blind- but this will be a hard one to get over- atleast im learning young
Nikita20 Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 Brittany: I've posted to you before, I'm not sure if you remember, but, I'm in the same boat as you. My ex and I, we went out for almost 2 years and he broke up with me in August. I only heard from him once and that was in September. Plus, he is seeing someone else. In the meantime, it hurts like hell that they don't contact us, but why should they? They have moved on. By contacting us, not only will prolong the pain, but give us a sense of false hope that they want to get back together with us. As strange as it sounds, it is probably a blessing that they haven't contacted us because it will help us heal and move on with our lives. In both of our situations, these girls are rebounds, so who knows how long they will last. In the meantime, you need to focus on improving yourself. The only person that counts right now is you. I'm struggling with this as well, but I've come to the realization that my ex isn't coming back and I need to move on. If I keep dwelling on this, it will set me back even further. I want to find love again, however, if I keep thinking of my ex and pining over him, this will never happen. The unfortunate thing about this, is that it will take time to heal. That is the hard part. However, with patience, strength and an immense amount of faith you have to believe that things will get better. Also, you have to realize that you will have your "down" days. Believe me, I still have my down days, however, I've been noticing that when I wake up in the morning, the sadness is slowly fading away. Don't worry, you will get over this. Keep posting. You have a lot of supporters out here. Plus, you are not alone.
morrigan Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 Feelings subside the longer you're not in contact, the more you see that you were upset over what might have been, but obviously was not. It's easy early in a breakup to remember all the good parts of a relationship and push aside all the problems that compounded. Most people grow out of loving or hating an ex, it hurts but it takes time. I agree, two years from now you'll think your ex was an OK guy, but it was better for both of you that things ended.
JS17 Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 First loves are hard to get over babe. Its going to take a while but it will happen. I swear I don't think I got over my first love until I met my college boyfriend. Don't worry, you will get there one day, just take each day from now until then as they come.
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted January 10, 2006 Author Posted January 10, 2006 Hey! nikita- you make very good points- Maybe the painful thing is- realizing that it is over?? that is something that stops you from moving on is not acceptance- I meen its hard to except that at first,they were yours for 2 years i meen of course this hurts!- im sorry he broke it off for you- I give so much advice here- i say what i feel- but than i realize why can't I just tell this to my self- its easier said than done- you can't feel how someone else is feeling- but we all know the pain- we all know the grieve, i love being on here. so much support- it Helps so much thank you- Going through this process- well i really haven't believed that I am going through it- but i am- deep down inside- i hold done to hope that one day he will contact me- but its a good thing he hasn't. I have been having my down days- but those good days i have i am so thankful for- even though deep down, i know im in pain-
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted January 10, 2006 Author Posted January 10, 2006 we all have first loves right? first love, first ache/ ehh well when i get through this i will be mighty proud lol
DevinWolfe Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 My ex dumped me a couple weeks before Thanksgiving after a 2+ year relationship. She was my first love and first lots of other things too. And i was hers. She completely cut me out of her life almost out of the blue. There was no other guy at the time (I know this for fact) but she immediately began trying to date other people and was unsuccessful. (LOL!) Then on NYE she sent me some text messages just saying hey and we ended up texting for a couple hours. This led to us talking on the phone from midnight until i clocked in at work 9 hours later... I really wish we hadnt spoke because all the effort i put into moving on was wiped out. Now here i sit back at square one. Not only that... she is asking one of my graduated friends to take her to her senior prom... Avoid ever coming in contact with your ex again. It will be better for your health. EDIT: P.S. Sorry youre hurting. No one deserves this kind of pain. And everyone else is right. Youre gorgeous. you should be the heartbreaker. Not him...
Nikita20 Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 Brittany: LOL...I know. I can dish out the advice, but as far as following it, that is another story. I guess it is because we are only human and are bound to make a mistake or two. Ugh!! Right now I feel: I want him to call damn it. I want him to say he made a mistake, wants me back and wants to work things out. Reality: I have a better chance winning the lottery than hearing from him again. Side note: Speaking of lottery, I need to buy a ticket this Wednesday, since the jackpot is at $60 million. Boy, if I won that ticket, adios ex. Ha!! Ha!!
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted January 11, 2006 Author Posted January 11, 2006 HAHAH i nkow right! it would take your mind right off of it! the ex factor- its so hard to even be calling him my ex- but he is, and i hate being known as his ex! but yeah you get these obsseive thoughts of them, day dream and its so werid how one person can make your world go down- thanks man- i am confident- but when your hurting like how i have been- that seems to disapear- but im getting better and i will strive to be better- and ihope ya'll do the same i always look forward to reading everyones thoughts and opinions-
teethbrushes Posted January 11, 2006 Posted January 11, 2006 i think a lot of times they just don't know what to say to you. I've dumped guys and regretted it and had no idea what to say to the guy afterwards.
dnm1010 Posted January 11, 2006 Posted January 11, 2006 i wouldnt talk to my exes... in general and also becxause i believe it is highly disrespectful for my current bf.
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