The time frame between first date to engagement/marriage?

[asdf100]

What are the good milestones (like how many dates) or time frame between first date to engagement/marriage? My girlfriend and I have solid jobs getting paid six figures in state of Georgia and we've been dating for three weeks thus far, and we're both in early 30's.

[smackie9]

I say at about a year and a half to two years to figure out where you are at. You need to really get to know them, and ya can't do that in 6 months. Plus you have to be past the honeymoon stage and see what you have before committing to a life together. 

[basil67]

If your relationship is smooth with minimal disagreements and you can sort out differences easily, I'd say 3 years till engagement and marry a year or so after that.

[Gebidozo]

I’d say at least 3 years till engagement, marriage maybe whenever you decide to have kids.

I got engaged a year into a relationship, it was way too soon and caused problems in a relationship that was otherwise built on a very good ground. Had to postpone the marriage indefinitely and work on a lot of issues of mine due to that. Now that the pressure is off things are way smoother.

So, whatever you do, please don’t rush and don’t pressure your partner into anything ever. 

[introverted1]

18 hours ago, asdf100 said:

we've been dating for three weeks thus far,

I don't think you should even been wondering about a timeline until you've been together for at least a year. 

[BaileyB]

For us, it was three years before we took the first big step to moved in together. We probably could have done it six months to a year earlier but he had a child which caused us to move a little slower. We recently married. We were engaged for 18 months. 

I too think that you should not even consider it until you have dated the woman for at least 12-18 months. Just enjoy this time as you get to know each other and build your relationship - 

Edited March 4 by BaileyB

[enterthevoid]

I'd say live with them before getting married. 

You don't know what it's like to live with them until you actually live with them.  Anyone can present their best self to you on dates, but then be a different person when they get home.

You should know.  Are you compatible in terms of what you both expect from your home/living situation?  Do they do their share of the housework?  Do they respect your privacy?  How do they handle stress or conflict?

[Els]

If your measure for when you should get married to a person is the number of dates... umm, I hate to break it to you, but you're nowhere near ready to get married.