wyattnick Posted March 3 Share Posted March 3 6 months out I look back and wow! The constant disrespect. Getting a handful of compliments in 2 years while I always told her how pretty, beautiful, she was. Seeing her check out other men or call other men handsome right in front of me. Never making me a priority. Never inviting me to her place. Cancelling plans because she needed alone time (no she was not physically cheating), not talking to me for a week because she felt i disrespected her for saying " I wanna be mature about this and not jump at the house without fully loving it" when we were going to look at our first house. Having to walk on thin ice around her otherwise she'd get upset and give me the silent treatment. Trying to talk to her while she just sat on phone. Her making tik tok videos BEGGING for follows. Always having to initiate text/phone calls otherwise we wouldn't talk. Her having meltdowns because after having sex we'd cuddle and I'd wanna go again and she's want tp but then say "no no no we don't have to if you dont want to nd when i would say "no i want to" she'd clam up and start crying. Her making snide remars about me in front of her kids. Her constant criticizing me. Her getting mad at me if i was negative about work then 10 minutes later she would do the same thing. Her acting like having a full time job, kids and a relationship was such a big dela when ,millions of people do it. Her saying she needed to clean her house, doing 1 room then being done for the day because she was tired Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 3 Share Posted March 3 Sounds like you made the right choice to break up. But now that you've written this all out, take a look at some of what you wrote from her perspective. There are things here where you were also less than perfect and would do well to improve or understand before your next relationship. 7 hours ago, wyattnick said: Getting a handful of compliments in 2 years while I always told her how pretty, beautiful, she was. Meh, I've had a handful of compliments from my husband in our 30odd years together. But he shows his love in different ways. Remember that there's more than one way to show love. 7 hours ago, wyattnick said: Her having meltdowns because after having sex we'd cuddle and I'd wanna go again and she's want tp but then say "no no no we don't have to if you dont want to and when i would say "no i want to" she'd clam up and start crying This isn't a meltdown. And the bolded is her not wanting a second round. She should have said NO bluntly, but it's not difficult to see that she didn't want a second round. It's unfortunate that she got to the point of crying for you to stop initiating 7 hours ago, wyattnick said: Her constant criticizing me. Perhaps she had good reasons on some issues 7 hours ago, wyattnick said: Her acting like having a full time job, kids and a relationship was such a big dela when ,millions of people do it. The fact that millions of people do it doesn't mean they aren't exhausted. It IS a big deal. 7 hours ago, wyattnick said: Her saying she needed to clean her house, doing 1 room then being done for the day because she was tired So what? 7 hours ago, wyattnick said: she felt i disrespected her for saying " I wanna be mature about this and not jump at the house without fully loving it" Well your words were patronising...... Link to post Share on other sites
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