soar eyes Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 Question, I have a child with my exbf, after 3 years of being apart how can he be so emotionally cold to me? I just don't understand how guys can do it. Is it some guy thing, or is it a childhood thing? He still cares about my wellfare but no emotional attachment.
riobikini Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 I'm only up for the short answers today, I'm afraid. He simply worked through his romantic emotions for you, succeeded in doing so, and moved on. -Rio
Sami_D Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 Well, the whole men being coldharted thing is a big issue... For the story you're raising... well, he's the father of your child, and emotionally involved with that... but your relationship with him is over. Isn't that how it is..?
Author soar eyes Posted January 10, 2006 Author Posted January 10, 2006 Sami D, just how short you gave your answer is how short the emotional exchange is between us. I hurt more and more about this whole thing. How many times am I going to have to hear those words" your relationship is over" until it really sticks. I just don't understand
slubberdegullion Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 Soar, at the risk of sounding like the bitter curmudgeon that I am... get a grip. It's been three years. He's moved on. So should you. Pining after him isn't doing you or your child any good. If you need help moving on, that's what the fine folk here at LS are for. But you have to recognize, and integrate, the understanding that he's not coming back, and you really need to let go.
Author soar eyes Posted January 10, 2006 Author Posted January 10, 2006 slubberdegullion, I know that hes not coming back but today he called to just call for no reason at all. Just to say "I just called to hollar at you, and to see how you are doing" Then tomorrow, he will go back to being abrupt. It is so hard to get past this. I'm crying so hard today, I haven't done this for a while. I'm so tired of talking to my girlfriends who are in sh***er situations than I am and are married.
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