Justme83 Posted March 2 Share Posted March 2 Hi all I'm new here and looking for advice. My story is about a year ago January I found out my husband had a 2 year affair. In the beginning I wanted to work things out but he had refused to end the affair and didn't want marriage counseling so I went and found a therapist on my own. It helped me but I haven't done it since then. Since my husband kept refusing to end that relationship, but in August he told me he did but I was skeptically and found out he met up with he I think November or December but I never said anything about it. I was so hurt, angry and considered divorce when I started talking to another man online we texted each other for 6 months before we met. I told him I was married and my situation before we met a few months ago and we haven't met since then we still talk every now and then. We never had sex or even talked about it. My husband eventually found my profiles on those apps and asked me to delete them which I did. I confessed and he wasn't upset as long as there was no sex involved. I know I said alot so far and I am still struggling a year later to make a decision because I see he's now trying to change. We been married 10 years with kids. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 2 Share Posted March 2 I think this marriage is way beyond repair. Personally, I would save myself more heartache and make an appointment with a good lawyer to start the process of ending it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted March 2 Share Posted March 2 I’m sure you have no trust nor respect in the marriage. Why would you stay? go back to the therapist and learn what a healthy boundary looks like. Start by having a voice and speaking your truth. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 2 Share Posted March 2 Divorce is definitely your best opinion at this point. It should have been your decision when he refused to end the affair or go to marriage counselling (not that that would have worked had he still been in the affair). Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted March 3 Share Posted March 3 He sounds like a total a*****e and I would have been at the divorce lawyer's office a year ago. Your kids shouldn't have to grow up around this toxic garbage. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 3 Share Posted March 3 26 minutes ago, MsJayne said: Your kids shouldn't have to grow up around this toxic garbage. Totally. They deserve more than this - from both parents. Link to post Share on other sites
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