Tangerina Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 During my X-mas break I spent a lot of time with my BF at his parent's house which is where he lives because it is one block from his college and rent free, you do the math.... I get along great with his family, even though sometimes it is a bit much to have them around all the time when I go to see him, but that is another story... so I spent a lot of time with him over break, and some time with him and his family too and at the end of break I had to head back to my parents house to pick up my sweetie rats before the long drive back to University.... so I got up and spent the morning with my BF and then headed to my car and drove home... I just found out tonight that it hurt his dad's feelings that I didn't come to say goodbye to him while he was out working in his shop... I hadn't seen him that morning so it just didn't occur to me because I didn't even think he was home! I should have thought because once before it hurt his feelings when I did the same thing, but that was when we first started dating and I didn't even really know his parents so I didn't think it matterd to him... now I know that his dad expects me to say goodbye so I will always remember from now on and be sure to do it, but is it really that rude that I didn't think of it in the first place? I mean, I talk to him and say goodbye if I see him while I am leaving, but I hadn't even seen him all morning because he was working... but I didn't even know that... Like, I wouldn't be offended if my mom's or sister's friend didn't say goodbye to me if they were there to spend time with my mom or sis and I was off doing completely my own thing even if they were generally my friend too... maybe I am just out of it.... Hmmmm........ what do you think? PS I wasn't there for the whole break, I had been coming and going all month and always said goodbye if I saw people... probably didn't say it some other times too, though... I dunno... I just feel crummy bout unintentionally offending!
Craig Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 Call the dad up and apologize for not saying goodbye as you thought he wasn't home when you left. I don't think you need to grovel but a light hearted apology will probably lead to a chuckle and a "that's ok Tangerina" on his part. Sometimes, messages get distorted as they get passed from person to person. Now, pick up the phone and make that call.
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