Wow, glad I cleared that up! No longer jealous cuz I just asked! I recommend it.

[Tangerina]

Wow, so, I have kinda been jealous of my BF's ex ever since we got together because I felt like in some ways he was still carrying a little bity torch for her... I have ranted and rambled about details on here before... usually didn't bother me because they really have no contact and she isn't in his life and he is mad at her for lots of mean things she did to him, but I was confused by his nostalgia.... tonight I am having my period and feel sickish and have anxiety so I couldn't sleep cuz I started thinking about it and wondering if he wishes I were her or something... you know, those bad middle of the night and I cant sleep even though I need to get up early sorts of thoughts... I am a worrier... though he hasn't actually given me anything to worry about in this situation it still comes up for me sometimes... so to combat the insomnia I decided to go online and he was on so I just decided to ask him exactly what he felt about her instead of relying on my own explanations which wasn't helping... here is how it went:

 

ME: can I ask you a personal question?

Him: perse me away baby

me: hehe

me: are you over your ex? I don't mean do you not care for her anymore, because it is good to care for people, but are you really over her, because sometimes I just don't quite understand what you feel towards her

him: yeah I am

him: Christina is kinda not cool really

him: she is very interesting and funny and cute, but there's other parts I really didn't like

him: more to the point, I'm pretty dang happy with you

me: I get the sense that you guys had a really special time together, and that you have a lot of nostalgia for that time.... and I understand that because I am a very nostalgic/sentimental person too.... but sometimes it made me confused, being a silly human and all, so I just thought I would ask so I could understand how you really feel.... if that makes sense

me: I am way dang happy to be with you too

 

Wow, well, I feel better... oh no, haha, now my worry function is going to fixate on if he thought it was wierd that I asked... nah, no problem... I feel good....

[littlekitty]

Strange how open communication really works in a relationship huh?!!!

 

Well done Tan! It's great when you can talk about things and get the reassurance you need from your partner!

[Tangerina]

Hehe, so true.... every once in a while my desire to clear the air about something conflicts with my desire to appear consistantly as cool as a cucumber and I secretly get uncool because I don't understand what is going on..... luckily I usually eventually suck it up and things work out great every time... I should have done this sooner, I feel good:)

[littlekitty]

*lol* I know that struggle!!

 

It sure does feel great when you sort things though! Have a great day!