LizMichelle Posted February 16 Share Posted February 16 Starting to get better in my life and realizing the mistakes in relationships making the bad choices was something I was doing. Has been one step at a time and know it will not be overnight. I was meeting guys that were taking advantage of me and also lied to me as well, Filing for annulment recently after finding out my estranged husband did criminal acts, selling drugs and murdered someone 3 years ago kept this behind my back telling me lies and was none of my business. He is in jail with no bond charged with murder he did confess to and going to be charged with drug charges later on. He will not get out, facing life in prison without parole when convicted of murder. My kids were right and hated him. Good thing is I have support from them, my family and friends that said I deserved better. Moving on slowly, we were married since November with no kids.Been thinking things over well. I have scheduled an appointment with a therapist to talk it over which will be on Tuesday. After the annulment is final, just going to take a break until I am ready to get back to the dating scene. One plan is seeing a matchmaker in July, a friend of mine knows one and does give advice having a talk with me first to finally find that right guy in my life. Learning to keep it positive now 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Carlston Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 Even though he confessed, until he is found guilty in a court of law you must not refer to him as having murdered someone and doing criminal acts (unless he was convicted of any of those). Otherwise you can be liable for libel. And given you post real names here you could easily be found out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LizMichelle Posted February 20 Author Share Posted February 20 29 minutes ago, Carlston said: Even though he confessed, until he is found guilty in a court of law you must not refer to him as having murdered someone and doing criminal acts (unless he was convicted of any of those). Otherwise you can be liable for libel. And given you post real names here you could easily be found out. My lawyer says I am not liable for anything and have not posted names which he has advised me not to do that Link to post Share on other sites
Author LizMichelle Posted February 20 Author Share Posted February 20 Seen the therapist yesterday and have a couple issues with me to deal with to work on. One is an anxiety issue and the other is a self esteem Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 16 minutes ago, LizMichelle said: Seen the therapist yesterday and have a couple issues with me to deal with to work on. One is an anxiety issue and the other is a self esteem Well done, you're going through a lot and it helps no end to have someone to talk to and work through things with. On 2/17/2025 at 5:32 AM, LizMichelle said: One plan is seeing a matchmaker in July, a friend of mine knows one and does give advice having a talk with me first to finally find that right guy in my life. I'd advise staying single quite a lot longer than 4 - 5 months. There's nothing wrong with being single, especially while you're building up self-esteem and learning to overcome anxiety. You already know that bad relationships actually give you anxiety and affect your self-esteem, so it can be self-defeating to try and mix self-improvement with relationships. The thing about men, (and women), who are toxic is that they're really good at homing in on people who will swallow their poison, like they've got a radar that lights up when a kind, compassionate, and generous person enters their zone. Until your own radar learns how to spot these people you'll probably go for the same personality type. Not that most would turn out to be a murderer, but still that same exploitative personality. Your therapist can probably help you with that too, and there's also plenty of good advice and information online for spotting toxic people early and how to deal with them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LizMichelle Posted February 20 Author Share Posted February 20 27 minutes ago, MsJayne said: Well done, you're going through a lot and it helps no end to have someone to talk to and work through things with. I'd advise staying single quite a lot longer than 4 - 5 months. There's nothing wrong with being single, especially while you're building up self-esteem and learning to overcome anxiety. You already know that bad relationships actually give you anxiety and affect your self-esteem, so it can be self-defeating to try and mix self-improvement with relationships. The thing about men, (and women), who are toxic is that they're really good at homing in on people who will swallow their poison, like they've got a radar that lights up when a kind, compassionate, and generous person enters their zone. Until your own radar learns how to spot these people you'll probably go for the same personality type. Not that most would turn out to be a murderer, but still that same exploitative personality. Your therapist can probably help you with that too, and there's also plenty of good advice and information online for spotting toxic people early and how to deal with them. Therapist suggested that too, waiting till September to get back on the dating scene Link to post Share on other sites
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