silentpen Posted February 16 Posted February 16 This girl that I’ve known for many years now (but have never officially dated or slept with), wants to meet my mom. The thing is, she’s currently seeing someone, but lately, she’s been overly caring towards my mom, which I find is odd. She’ll constantly ask how my mom is doing, and now that I’m back in town, she offered to take my mom around since she’s not familiar with the area. What does this mean?
basil67 Posted February 16 Posted February 16 Perhaps you talk about your mom and she's taking notice? Perhaps she thinks you don't care about your mom enough? Perhaps she likes old people. All we can do is guess. What does she say when you ask her about it?
smackie9 Posted February 16 Posted February 16 Why not just say something to her about it. If you find it odd then just tell her.
Alvi Posted February 17 Posted February 17 This woman is dating someone (not you) and wants to meet your mom??? That's is strange. Ask her about why she wants to meet your mom. There may be a good valid reason. Don't have a clue what it would be but you never know. Maybe she is selling some stuff to elderly people or she wants to earn some cash working as a caregiver. Talk to her. But I have to ask what are you getting out of this "friendship." She is dating someone else and where do you fit in?
ShyViolet Posted February 17 Posted February 17 We are not mind readers.... have you tried asking her?
ExpatInItaly Posted February 17 Posted February 17 12 hours ago, silentpen said: What does this mean? Ask her why she is so interested in your mother. The better question is, are you happy just being this woman's friend? You posted this in Dating so I am going to guess you have a romantic interest in her. I would keep some clear boundaries with her since she is not single and you could wind up hurt if you read too much into this Mommy-interest.
glows Posted February 17 Posted February 17 (edited) That sounds like normal conversation to me especially polite acquaintance type conversations with some familiarity. Asking about someone’s family, how their parents are doing or even a specific family member if there’s been some sort of health issue in the past or life event is part of polite conversation. Nothing special here. Your mother could have watched her grow up same like you. Your mom is practically an auntie to her. And if they’ve never met before I still think it’s quite common to offer help and ask how someone’s family is doing. I can’t fathom why any kid wouldn’t ask or offer to accompany her in town or show some respect. Edited February 17 by glows 1
SurfCity Posted February 17 Posted February 17 (edited) She views you as a friend and that's how social people build a community of friends around themselves. She's not going to find herself in a loneliness epidemic; she's reaching out and making connections. It's hard to understand why you're confused by her normal behavior. Edited February 17 by SurfCity
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