emoionall stressed Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 About 6 months ago my fiance broke up with me. He told me he was not leaving me for our new roommate, but I think he did. You see about 3-4 months ago they got hooked up. Now we ( my ex and I) are still having sex behind her back. Does that me he still loves me? They both still live with me because neither of them have enough money to move out. I am too affraid to kick either of them out. I fear if I do h will never speak to me again. He tells me over and over again that if things don't work out betwen the two of them he will come back to me. I hope so bad that the two of them break up and soon. I want my man back that the home wrecking *itch took form me. If things don't work out between them should I take him back? Should I believe him when he says he'll take me back when/if they break up? Please help me I am sooo confused!!!!
Sami_D Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 You're letting him trample all over you, and blaming her. You're wondering if he still loves you while he's continuing a relationship with another woman under the same roof, and telling you you come Second to her. If that's 'love' I wouldn't want any part of it. You're afraid to do anything about it in case he doesn't speak to you again? Not healthy in the slightest. Please stop blaming everything on his girlfriend. From what you've told us here there was no 'home' for her to wreck. HE made the choice to end it with you and start up with her. If you continued to sleep with him it will just have shown him you have very little self-respect. You need to take some action and stop worrying that this two-timing man will desert you. At least stop having sex with him. At best get them out of the house. Is it your place? (you talk about kicking them out..?)
BUTAFLY Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 This man has total disregard for you and your feelings...Not respect...NO couth. ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!! ok I understand your heartbroken and all but this is regoddamndiculous! And how dare you have such low respect for yourself where you are still sleeping with him. GHEEZ sweetie you are holding on to scraps!...scrapping the bottomof the barrel. I say you and your roommate need to wake up and kick him out. Man this dude must be the proverbale 'BOY WITH THE GOLDEN BALLS' cause he has you two women stary eyed over him. At least with the other women on here with other men/MM we only can speculate(cause we can't take their word for it) what really goes on in his home with his women....but honey...your their, you live it and see it for yourself. You need out of this situation pronto!!!!!!!!
EMJ Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 ...if I was letting someone treat me like crap. Can you say doormat? Honey, he's walking all over you and then telling you he'll come back if it doesnt work out???! Why would you want his pathetic sorry ass? Does he love you? NO, big NO. He's using you as a fall back and that's OK with you?? AND they live with you? You are in a TOXIC situation. This is destroying the last shred of self esteem that you have remaining. If it wasn't her it would be someone else. He's a jerk-the 100% loser kind. She's going along for the ride and in the meantime you are waiting for him to get over her??. He doesn't respect you because you don't resepct yourself. This is sad beyond words. You need to get some dignity back and get the hell out of this scenario. You should not be confused. You have rolled over because you know you have no power here. Get yourself together. It's like the U2 song "you're stuck in a moment that you can't get out of " Please get a grip. He doesn't love you but he might respect you if stop taking this crap. You've got to change. You can't change anyone but yourself-SO DO IT.
JayKay Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 Don't let people sh** all over you and then worry about their feelings. You are being used and abused!!!! Kick them both out. Who cares if h never speaks to you again? You don't need a negative person like that in your life. You need to grow a spine girl and get some self respect
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