GoodVibess Posted February 13 Posted February 13 Last year during the summer this man added me off quickadd on snapchat. He’s 27 and I’m 24 and we started talking and since we live close to each other we met up. During the time, I felt very insecure and I pushed him away we got into a big fight during our second date. He ended up blocking me and then he reached out again in july and blocked me again and then reached out in september and again things went downhill and he blocked me again. He blocked me 3 times and he reached out again last week. I didn’t expect him to come back but he did. This time we have been talking normally for over a week and I’ve kept calm and understand he doesn’t want commitment atm. However, it bothers me cuz he keeps asking me for pics and I sent them every-time he has asked me to. Yesterday I asked him “when are we meeting?” he replies “I might be busy working this weekend “ “Not 100% sure” “Some random shi popped up” I replied “well i’m not sending anymore pics till we meet” “i understand you have priorities and i’ve been calm and sent pretty much every pic you’ve asked me to i just don’t think is fair to continue sending pics when we aren’t even meeting.” he replies “Okay baby I understand” “I might be able to free up I just can’t commit a time right now” I replied “thank you for understanding and okay just let me know:)” then he texted me 1 hour ago saying “hey bby” “watchu doing” At this point, I am annoyed of texting and we aren’t meeting. I feel I am being used for attention.
basil67 Posted February 13 Posted February 13 Do not confront him. Instead, confront yourself and reflect on your own foolish decisions to keep in contact with a guy who is blocking you all the time. And sending (sexy?) pics isn't going to win you a boyfriend or persuade him to see you.....all you're doing is giving him images for his collection of women who he masturbates to. Why are you even bothering with him? Is he really hot or something? 1
Author GoodVibess Posted February 13 Author Posted February 13 9 minutes ago, basil67 said: Why are you even bothering with him? Is he really hot or something? Because I want to see him. I enjoyed my time with him.
basil67 Posted February 13 Posted February 13 8 minutes ago, GoodVibess said: Because I want to see him. I enjoyed my time with him. But he doesn't like or respect you. If he did, then he wouldn't be blocking you all the time
Author GoodVibess Posted February 13 Author Posted February 13 8 minutes ago, basil67 said: But he doesn't like or respect you. If he did, then he wouldn't be blocking you all the time Because I went crazy and started blowing his phone 3 times so he blocked me.
basil67 Posted February 13 Posted February 13 7 minutes ago, GoodVibess said: Because I went crazy and started blowing his phone 3 times so he blocked me. Why did you do this?
Author GoodVibess Posted February 13 Author Posted February 13 17 minutes ago, basil67 said: Why did you do this? because he made me mad and wasn’t replying to my crazy messages and then he said he done with me and blocked me
basil67 Posted February 13 Posted February 13 9 minutes ago, GoodVibess said: because he made me mad and wasn’t replying to my crazy messages and then he said he done with me and blocked me I still have no clue why you'd want to see him again. And I have no clue why he unblocked you. The two of you are beyond toxic. Perhaps you both thrive on drama and conflict? Do you have a therapist? It's important to unpack why you are making these bad choices. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted February 14 Posted February 14 OP, your posting histroy reveals a very unstable and chaotic love life. You choose chaos. You fully participate in (and manufacture) chaos. You keep repeating this behaviour and coming back here to ask what is going on. Either you simply enjoy the attention these threads bring you (and the drama with these man-clowns you're so fond of), or you have got a serious amount on inner work to do to resolve what are very clearly some underlying issues within yourself. I suspect it's both. It's hard to take your threads seriously when each and every one describes a ridiculous level of drama and immaturity from both you and the guy in question. 3
smackie9 Posted February 14 Posted February 14 (edited) 17 hours ago, GoodVibess said: Because I went crazy and started blowing his phone 3 times so he blocked me. This right there is you being obsessive/ lost control. Him knowing that, he's getting his jollies out of messin with you. You are getting duped. You need some self worth. This guy or any guy that blocks you, then hoovers you back is a jerk. Confront him? Oh he would just love that....he would get even more pleasure knowing he's getting that reaction out of you. Block him and go silent....forever. Edited February 14 by smackie9
NuevoYorko Posted February 14 Posted February 14 20 hours ago, GoodVibess said: Last year during the summer this man added me off quickadd on snapchat. He’s 27 and I’m 24 and we started talking and since we live close to each other we met up. During the time, I felt very insecure and I pushed him away we got into a big fight during our second date. Ok. This should be as far as you went with this guy. I almost can't believe you're serious, I'm sorry to say. Why would you carry on with a person after getting in a "BIG FIGHT" on your second date? That is all you need to know about not being compatible, if not that the guy (maybe you too - think about this) is not dating material for anyone. Fighting, first of all, is not the way to resolve anything. Second, it's not something to do with a virtual stranger, EVER. And then you go on with the blocking and picture sending and everything ... Please stop this madness. You've posted quite a bit and things seem to go dramatically sideways every time. Why don't you just quit this. If you really feel ready to be in a relationship, take some of the good advice you've received here about how to approach it in a healthy way.
FredEire Posted February 18 Posted February 18 It sounds like you like the attention. Getting in a big fight with someone after two years is normal, after two dates it sounds weird and mentally unstable. And if he truly displayed some a**h*** behaviour that would have caused you to flip, why would you want to see him again? Maybe the urge to create drama stems from deep down feeling like you don't have much to offer if you're just calmly being yourself?
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