little green Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 This question might sound stupid, but I am very confused if I love him when I need to make a decision on his move-in request. We have a long history, 5-6 years, including 3 year long-distance. We are still far away from each other, but he is thinking of moving to my city. Our relationship had been on and off a couple of times. We've hurt each other very much. But look back, we treasure what we had and want this to work. I mean, we are good together. We support each other, we enjoy the company of each other, we laugh together, we cook together....nothing seems standing in the way of his request of moving in together. But there is something missing. The passion. I don't miss him. When I was with him, I was happy. But somehow I get used to live alone without thinking of him. Sometimes my call is out of obligations. It also bothers me that I have the desire to meet new people. Wasn't/Isn't he the one I love? Do I love him? Or I just cannot stand a love without infatuation?
crazy lady Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 I am sure you realize that you can love a person an not be "in love" with them. Most of us search for someone to be "in love" with. I have many people that I love and a man whom I believe I am falling in love with. I have been dating this man now for just under three months. Things are going very well. It is to the point now where he is all I think about. I want to be with him as much as possible. I find that I care for him beyond a friendship. This man makes me happy!! Happiness is what is most important in a relationship, otherwise, why be in one? Yes, companionship is great but, it won't always make you happy. All I can say is, DON'T settle. You may look back and find that you have wasted a lot of time as well as possibly ruining the good relationship you have now by hurting each other more. I say if you don't feel the desire to be with him, this may not be the thing for you, ....right now. Take it slow. Let him move to your city but take your time and see how things go. Your feelings may change after some time together.
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