basil67 Posted February 11 Posted February 11 Exactly ^ You don't need disclose that you sit in your own stink in the toilet for half an hour reading your phone while your partner is busting for a wee. But you do need to disclose the basics of your situation. We get disgruntled posters here all the time who are pissed about having had important information withheld. And when I say important, I'm talking about age, marital status, employment and yes, location. Holding back on this kind of stuff is what makes people really pissy about OLD
Acacia98 Posted February 12 Posted February 12 On 2/11/2025 at 10:13 AM, uncanny said: I get it but it's also my point. Anything is possible. If was not given a chance nonetheless Perhaps I'm wrong, but it sounds to me like you're having trouble accepting the fact that you can't control every eventuality. That's a disastrous attitude to take into dating. You have to be able to accept that you won't do/say everything 'perfectly,' and that, yes, there will be missed opportunities. That's the essence of life. If you spend too much time obsessing over a missed opportunity that was unlikely to work out anyway, you may end up overlooking a far better potential match. 1
FredEire Posted February 18 Posted February 18 (edited) There's something about limerence situations and circumstance making it almost impossible. I don't know how many times I've met a girl as I was about to move away from somewhere, or just passing through a city for one night etc and thought "damn, why couldn't we just be living in the same place?" Would I have found myself overthinking this connection if it wasn't hopelessly unlikely? Maybe not, maybe I wouldn't have been into her. Maybe she wouldn't have been into me. Impossible is safe, it's important to remember that. It's a very easy place to think back about what ifs without them turning into if onlys. The mind and the heart can play some strange tricks. Edited February 18 by FredEire
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