Choclover Posted February 10 Posted February 10 I’m in the UK. A wealthy friend of mine who I’ve known for a very long time, after living 100’s of miles from me, has ended up about 20 miles away. Naturally we were keen to start meeting up and when I sold my tiny home, she offered me a room at hers until I found somewhere to rent. However, what I hadn’t realised until I moved in, is what a dreadful snob she is and she took every opportunity to shove how much money she had when she was married, down my throat. Waving arms around saying “of course it was money no object” whilst showing me millions of photos of this lovely kitchen. She put me down at every opportunity and I was glad to find a rented flat after a month. Any opinion I had she laughed openly at and I started going back as late as possible. Once I’d left, I made no move to get in touch, but she keeps fb messaging me, saying there’s something wrong with my account because she can’t see my posts, whereas of course I’ve changed the privacy settings. She cannot conceive it’s her. I am in no hurry to start any communication with her, but I’m a bit shocked that she actually thinks it’s ok to treat a so called friend like this. Just needed to get this off my chest.
introverted1 Posted February 10 Posted February 10 1 hour ago, Choclover said: She put me down at every opportunity What did she say/do to put you down? 1
ShyViolet Posted February 10 Posted February 10 You did the right thing in cutting it off with her. How is it that you were friends with this person a long time, when she has such a terrible personality? Was she always like this?
MsJayne Posted February 10 Posted February 10 Yeah, shallow people are painful to be around. Their posturing and self-aggrandising can drain the tolerance right out of you. I'm not sure why she would be putting other people down if having a wealthy ex is her biggest achievement in life, but who knows what goes on in the mind of an airhead. You've done the right thing. 1
Author Choclover Posted February 11 Author Posted February 11 21 hours ago, introverted1 said: What did she say/do to put you down? Pretty much in every way possible. Not my size tho as she’s a lot larger than me. 1
Author Choclover Posted February 11 Author Posted February 11 17 hours ago, ShyViolet said: You did the right thing in cutting it off with her. How is it that you were friends with this person a long time, when she has such a terrible personality? Was she always like this? There’s the crux really, no, when we were close mates before after her first marriage failed, she was fine. I had no idea until I stayed with her that she’d become so snobby over her life and very bitter towards her second ex husband. Even tho the settlement has meant she never has to worry about money again. It’s so odd. She doesn’t like many other peeps, loved the solitude of lockdown (I nearly had a breakdown) so weird. Anyway, I’m better off without her I think. Shame tho.
stillafool Posted February 13 Posted February 13 On 2/11/2025 at 7:57 AM, Choclover said: She doesn’t like many other peeps, loved the solitude of lockdown (I nearly had a breakdown) so weird. Anyway, I’m better off without her I think. Shame tho. It doesn't sound like you guys were compatible friends anymore but I'm sure you're grateful that she let you stay there rent free until you got on your feet. Sometimes friendships only last for a season.
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