chocolate_boy Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 well, you are asking how long it takes for an ex to contact somebody they you were with? A GF contacted me after 2 years. She left me for another guy, and pretended there was nothing between the two of us. I moved on, and after two years she came back and UNEQUIVOCALLY begged me to take her back. I said no. She begged to be just my friend, I said no. She told me how much she regreted it and it only took her sometime to realize she missed so much on me. Lol, 2 years?! That is indeed sometime! Most insaine thing I've ever heard. Suppose it proves you never know what is around the corner.
fooled Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 I think one ex took about 10 years to contact me after cheating on me (we were both really young). She had obviously grown up, matured, told me how sorry she was for what she did and how wrong she knows it was - and I obviously was over it. We spoke quite a few times and each she would tell me that - after a while, I said, "it's all right - we're cool." We're now friends - in fact, I've been to her house during christmas to visit her, her husband and children. My ex right before the slut and I didn't speak for about a year. We broke up because I had fallen out of love with her, though still loving her. We are now very good friends. That is not going to happen with the recent ex. In retrospect, I see that she was never a friend to begin with. I may have to be civil and cordial to her, but she will never be a part of my life or know anything about me outside of work. She is quite possibly the worst person I have ever had in my life and it sickens me how deceived I was - and how much I've struggled to get over her.
Raven1845 Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 She is quite possibly the worst person I have ever had in my life and it sickens me how deceived I was - and how much I've struggled to get over her. I know EXACTLY how you feel. It sucks that it still hurts me. I can't believe how much I love someone I should hate so much. Hugs, Raven
pistol Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 I know what you mean, as I said before it's been two months for me and then after contact initiated by her, two weeks. The thing is sometimes I remember her being a better person than she actually is, and thats something that I have to constantly remind myself not to do, remember the crap, the arguments. At least when single you can be selfish, do what you like and there is no one there to nag and moan, obviously there is things I miss but it's most important to grow stronger wait for the right girl, and o'boy did it take me a long time to realise she wasn't the right girl. I beginning to realise that it's her loss, I can do better and if she comes back again, she can take a running jump, preferably from a great height into very shallow water. Ha Ha!! Evil I know!
fooled Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 I know EXACTLY how you feel. It sucks that it still hurts me. I can't believe how much I love someone I should hate so much. Hugs, Raven That's because you don't love the person they are - you love the person you thought there were - sometimes more specifically - the person they want to to see.
Aaurora_26 Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 So...you should forget about him. And please let him go. Accept that it's over and focus on yourself. You can't live in the past for it will always effect your future. The sooner you let go the sooner you'll find someone 1000 times better for you. Wow, those are some fantastic words. They really inspire me. Thank you
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