JS17 Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 I promised myself that I would not drag either of the ex's into the new year. Dumbazz number two emailed me but I'm really so over him. As for the one that I have been whining and crying about for a year now (WTF?!?), well I did promise myself I wouldn't bring him into the new year but I knew today was a ticking time bomb. Since today is almost over I'm making a promise to myself, and posting it on LS so that I can't go back, that I will leave him in my past as he has left me there. I will not cry over what happened anymore and I will continue to fix the physical and emotional problems he has left me with as though he never existed. I'm not going to let him take any more of my life, I've already given him too much. I was a really strong person when we got together, a really weak person when we broke up and I will soon be a really strong person again without him in my life and my thoughts. This is my promise. Anyone finds me whining about him they have full right to torture me for it.
johan Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 Good attitude, JS. It isn't easy, but it helps me to allow myself to think only of the future. When thoughts of the ex or the breakup or what I did wrong or what a blazing, white-hot bitch she is creeps into my head, I just remind myself that all that matters is where I'm going. It's not easy, but thought patterns like that can become a habit. Just like dwelling on the past can become a habit. A miserable one. Remember: future only. No past.
In Sync Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 I promised myself that I would not drag either of the ex's into the new year. Dumbazz number two emailed me but I'm really so over him. As for the one that I have been whining and crying about for a year now (WTF?!?), well I did promise myself I wouldn't bring him into the new year but I knew today was a ticking time bomb. Since today is almost over I'm making a promise to myself, and posting it on LS so that I can't go back, that I will leave him in my past as he has left me there. I will not cry over what happened anymore and I will continue to fix the physical and emotional problems he has left me with as though he never existed. I'm not going to let him take any more of my life, I've already given him too much. I was a really strong person when we got together, a really weak person when we broke up and I will soon be a really strong person again without him in my life and my thoughts. This is my promise. Anyone finds me whining about him they have full right to torture me for it. I commend you for making this promise, but please don't bottle up your feelings when they come, just because it's the new year. If you were trying to contact your ex, or saying you were holding on to hope waiting for him to call..that would be alarming...BUT your feelings are popping up for a reason. Cry if you must. You'll stop, but let the feelings flow. Cutting yourself arbitrarily will only make you one day break from withholding it all in. Crying and expressing your emotions is a sign of STRENGTH. No doubt about it. You are progressing..maybe you don't see it but you are. Whine, Rant and Rave! Let it out WHEN you feel it! There's not one person on LS who could or would reprimand you for being honest with yourself. Honour your emotions!!!
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