manny1 Posted January 8 Posted January 8 Hi all, don't know if this is the right place but feel like I just need to get this off my chest. I got divorced from my ex-wife 3 years ago. Had a couple of short term relationships this last year which ended. Recently I have been feeling quite lonely. I live on my own, most of my friends are married with kids and I struggle to get them to meet up as they have other priorities now. Whenever we do meet up I am the only single one and naturally the conversations turn to other peoples family life, issues with kids, schools etc. I just feel completely left out and that just reinforces how lonely I feel recently. To make things worse I've been having a crush on a co-worker who isn't single and I wouldn't do anything to pursue anything but I can't avoid her as we have to work closely and this doesn't help matters. I've tried doing activities and ask my other friends to join and they either never reply or just tell me they can't make it so I end up just doing things on my own or taking myself on solo holidays. Not sure if I'm looking for advice or just wanting to release some pent up feelings. Thanks
Foxhall Posted January 8 Posted January 8 Am kind of in a similar situation- not that long over a five year relationship that I thought would go on forever even though it was not perfect or anything, I tend to fluctuate between "well being single again open up some exciting possibilities" and then I yearn to have the old relationship back and feel the solitude at times, I have not quite figured out whether to continue to step back and wait for something good to happen or whether to step up the efforts to meet someone new, Had a bit of a recent setback in that the door appears closed on the rekindling of another older relationship, therefore I am pretty much alone at least for the time being- thats the hardest part currently so I have to push myself out there again which at mid 40s is a little harder maybe, current situation does bring a certain freedom perhaps, to end the post on a positive note you also have the freedom to choose what direction you head in.
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