Ms_Sweetness Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 Okay, I have known this particular guy for several years now. We went to college together. He confessed to me around May 2005 (graduation) that he always had feelings for me. I always thought that he was cute but felt that he had enough girls chasing him in school, so I always remained friends with him. The thing is, now he is in grad school in another state. He asked me in mid 2005 to visit him there and he would take care of the expenses (not airfare though). At the time I couldn't go because I was working two jobs and had no time or extra money. He understood and accepted that i may come at a later date. So THanksgiving rolls around and he comes home. He was only here for two days and called me spur of the moment to tell me that he was in my neighborhood. I wasn't at home at the time and I told him this. Later I found that he was upset because he didn't feel that I was trying hard enough to see him. I admit that I wasn't but he called at the last minute!! Anyway I now have the time and funds to visit him and he says that he still wants me to come but I don't know if I should. I feel like I'm chasing him now and I have never chased anyone. He used to send cute texts and talk to me more but now he has become distant. I guess I am hoping that if I take this trip we may rekindle what was building. What do you guys think? Should I go? 1
Weye Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 I don't see any reason why you shouldn't go. I don't think that would be 'chasing'. He's been asking you to go right? He could show you a great time in his city. But I wouldn't be expecting any sort of committed to develop out of this. Long distance relationships are tough. Go to have fun with an old friend.
cygny Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 why doesn't he come visit you? i don't think he's really putting any effort into this, and instead wants you to chase him. if he likes you enough, he'll make the first effort and then you can reciprocate. but it sounds like he's spoiled.
Author Ms_Sweetness Posted January 9, 2006 Author Posted January 9, 2006 He comes home every now and again but it's more difficult for him to travel because he is in school full time and working the rest of the time. I don't know
cygny Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 not sure but it sounds like he doesn't make an effort to make sure you will be available when he comes home? if so, why should you spend your hard-earned bucks to travel to see him? don't obsess on this guy, try to create opportunities to meet new men. listen to your gut, you feel like you are chasing him and he is becoming distant. there is a relationship between those two things, ie he needs to chase you. back off and let him.
Author Ms_Sweetness Posted January 19, 2006 Author Posted January 19, 2006 Well I decided try to visit this guy because I talked to him and asked him what he wanted to do. He seemed really interested in my coming so he told me that he would let me know which weekend would be best for me to come. It has been one week since he has said that so my question is, what should I do next? Should I call him again to see what is up? Or should I just leave it alone? Is one week enough time to see what you are doing after the first weekend in Feb?
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