SoDeepWithinYou Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 I'm deeply in love with my boyfriend, we have been together for over six months and have known eachother for almost two years. He says he is madly in love with me too which i believe because he acts it and doesnt just say it and things have been going so great for us and we're getting closer and closer. In his past relationships he hasnt been treated so well and they havent stuck around for too long and he has it in his head that relationships don't last at all and is always talking about his future with out including me in it. I was talking to him about his birthday which is four months away at the moment and he didn't seem comfortable disscussing it with it being 'so far away' and made some comment leaning towards that we might not be together then so why bother discussing it now. Little things like this used to happen alot but ten times worse, he'd go on a rant about how we could break up tomorrow or in two days or two weeks or in two hours even, all because i suggest a meal with old friends in a months time for example. He's calmed down alot since then, he doesnt do it that often now and not to that extent either. But the other night he was telling me all these plans he has for this year and the next few years and they were things that meant him moving to a different country for a year or longer which would mean the relationship ending because he refuses to do long distance relationships. He really wants to follow in his dads footsteps and travel and see the world and experience life with a group of male friends then settle down in his late 30's early 40's.....but his dad was engaged a good few times before he settled down because his fiancee's either got cold feet and disappeared or cheated, so he ended up travelling with friends while getting over it all. And i keep thinking to myself....doesnt the love we have now count for something? Will he just pack up and leave me to follow in his dad's footsteps....will he run away from our love to live his dads life....which only happened because his dads love ran away from him in the first place?.....and if his wants to see the world and travel and experience life.....why can't he do that with me?
whichwayisup Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 Not sure how old you both are, but honestly I would just enjoy him and relationship as it is now. Things can change, feelings can change, but the way it looks at the moment he IS into you. I think he probably isn't thinking long term because he doesn't know where his life is heading quite yet. Which is normal. 6 months is alot of emotional investment, but not enough to NOT follow his dreams. You love him and want him, but you also want him to follow what his passions are...If he needs to go, let him go. That doesn't mean you and him are 'over' forever...Just means that it's time to see the world...Who knows infew years or so he may not want to travel, maybe his priorities will change and you will be a big part of his life then. Trust him and have faith. Be honest and let him know that you love him and will always be there, if that is how you feel. Good luck!
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