After first date question

[Guy101]

I met a lady on a dating app and we ended up meeting at a restaurant for the first date about 2 weeks later.  The conversation seemed to go well.  She asked if I would prefer to continue chatting through the dating app or exchange phone numbers  for texting, which we did.  After we finished eating and talking (about 7:45pm), she said it was still early.  I told her I was up for going and doing something else but she said she would probably just go home because she had to work early and also her son had text her while we were eating and needed something as well.  (We both live within 10 minutes of the restaurant).  She said she had several days off in a row coming up in about 2 weeks and we could do something else then. We left the restaurant and I walked her to her car and gave her a hug.  She works about 45+ hours a week and has 2 younger teenagers so I don't question that she stays busy between work and kids/school activities.

After we left the restaurant, she text me about 15 minutes later and thanked me again for dinner, said she enjoyed visiting with me and getting to know me.  I replied back that she was welcome, I enjoyed her company and that she looked very nice.  She did not respond back after that, though we rarely communicated when using the dating app as well.

From the first time we communicated through the dating app, the first few messages we just asked basic questions, then set up the date and only communicated 3 or 4 times before we had the actual date.  I guess im just not really sure how to read her.  The part that throws me off is her making the comment about how early it still was (she made that comment twice) but turned down my invitation to go do something else that same evening.  Had the shoe been on the other foot, I would have gone out of my way to go out with her for a few more hours just to get to know her a little more. 

Im just looking for some insight.  Is she really interested?  Was the text she sent after our date just a farewell text?

 

 

[smackie9]

Ask her out again in two weeks, maybe send a few text messages between then...in the meantime continue to date others. Never invest or fret over anyone after one date. You keep your search going.

[ShyViolet]

The way to find out if she's interested is to ask her out on a second date.  Then you'll have your answer.

[Gaeta]

Why does she need time off work to meet again? She must have weekends or of couple of days off per week? Also, young teenagers don't need babysitters, she does not need that much organization to go out the house for an hour for a walk, you are 10 mins apart.

How to get to know her? Ask questions!

I'm always puzzled that people don't ask questions on their 1st date. By the time my 1st date with my bf was done l knew his work schedule, his kids custody agreement, l knew what free time he could devote to a girlfriend, l knew what he was looking for, and what he was not not looking for, l knew his religious beleif, political beleif, his parenting style. 

Call her. Create a connection. Show interest in what she does. Ask to go on a walk with her to your local park so you can get to know each other until the next date.

Edited December 30, 2024 by Gaeta

[Alpacalia]

She went silent after you mentioned her looks. Women can be weird when men start commenting on their appearance right away. They can take it as you only want them for looks.

I think she mentioned how early it was because she probably felt your date was wrapping up sooner than she would have liked. She may have been hinting that she wanted to spend more time with you but didn't want to come across as too forward. Her turning down your invitation to do something else could be because of her busy schedule or maybe she was just tired from working long hours.

As for the text she sent after the date, it's hard to say if it was just a farewell text or not. It could be some hint of her interest but it's also possible that she just wanted to be polite and thank you for the date.

Overall, I think it's best to give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she is still interested. Keep in touch with her and try to plan another date when she has some free time. If she continues to be distant or uninterested, then it may be a sign that she's not interested. But for now, give her some space and try to make plans for the future.