Princess_Ayana Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 Hi you all! I'm SO happy I found this forum because I have a problem: I moved to Atlanta for College in August 05. I kind of had a "sorta" Boyfriend waiting for me--a guy I'd met over the internet and had a phone relationship with for 6 months b4 i moved to atl but we did visit each other twice). The internet guy--lets call him James--told me he'd fallen in love with me when he visited me in june. He said hed wait 4 me to come and wanted to be my boyfriend. In June 05 after I graduated HS, I met a man who turned into my summer 'fling'. Lets call him Adrian). We had a really great time together at first, but I made the mistake of sleeping with him during our 2nd date. Ever since then we've had a strange relationship, until basically I saw that he was just calling me to have sex with me. But he would say things like he wanted me as a GF and that he loved me, and I developed very strong feelings for him despite the fact he didnt even bother to see me b4 i left for the college. The guy that was already in ATL had waited for me and me, in the desperation and anger I'd had from the way my summer "romance" ended asked the guy to be my boyfriend even though i knew i wasnt ready for a relationship. And while I have grown to love him back because he's treated me better than any guy ever has...I cant stay faithful to him. And the Summer fling and I started talking again when I came back home for a weekend visit to my home and my strong feelings for him have returned, like right now I cant keep him out of my mind. My current boyfriend loves me so much that he would just be a wreck if I broke up with him. I do care for him, but I have slept with other male 'buddies' of mine. My BF doesnt satisfy me sexually, and I feel like I'm just staying with him because he has a car he can drive me around in, and because I cant dream of hurting him. I keep waiting for an attractive, rich man to sweep me off my feet (dont we all?? lol). Any advice on how to handle my situation? (Sorry this is so long!!)
helena abadi Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 if you're having trouble with fidelity, then your current boyfriend is not for you, and you're hurting him more by staying with him for dishonest reasons, than you would by being honest and breaking up with him. it looks as tho your feelings don't match his. it won't work. he will be hurt but he will get over it eventually.
Weye Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 You're going to hurt him sooner or later anyway, cut both of your losses and break up with him now. He'll be hurt, but he'll get over it. You're not doing him any favors by stringing him along like you are.
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