JS17 Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 This is JS17. I'm posting on behalf of my cat. She's driving me nuts. We're having some relationship problems and I told her I would help her to get some advice for her. This is what she wanted me to post...... Hi LoveShack, I need some advice on what to do about my owner because I'm currently unhappy with our relationship. I have to wake her up at about 4 or 5 every morning by screaming in her ear and licking her face. Sometimes I have to do this for an hour before she'll get up. I'm ashamed but sometimes I even get abusive and bite her...but they're just love bites and I don't eally mean to hurt her. I don't know why I have this compulsion to have her awake. Sometimes I don't even want to be fed or to play I just want her awake. It doesn't even matter what time of day it is either. If I wake her up really early on a weekend after she's had a late night out she'll try to take a nap but I can't stand watching her sleep, I have to wake her up. I think maybe I have OCD. My other problem is the amount of time she spends with me. I know she got me and my kitty sister together so that we would have each other to play with since she isn't home a lot. Even when she is home she's usually on the phone or on the computer. She's always online now looking for a new job trying to help other animals but she's ignoring the animals that are currently in her life. And she spends so much time on this site lamenting about that giant doofy guy who used to sleep here a year ago. It's so annoying. He didn't even like me and threatened to throw me out the window but he loved my kitty sister. (Fine, maybe I was jealous of that.) Plus, she had that other guy here last year and at least he kinda liked me so I don't know what her problem is. I kind of miss my owner's sister, she used to come and play with me all of the time. She really loved me but she moved away 8 months ago. Now I'm just stuck with my kitty sister and I get bored because my owner is never around. I keep tearing up the toilet paper but it isn't helping her to realize that I need more attention. I try to do nice things for her like killing cockroaches (I'm on a diet so I can only eat half of them and have to leave the rest for her) but she still doesn't appreciate me and she tells me that I'm chubby. I get that I'm needy and clingy and it just pushes her away but I'm struggling to figure out what to do. She wants to try NC but we live in the same place so I don't know how it's going to work out. Plus I get mad because she still wants to be with the OC (other cat). I don't really know what to do. I think I belong in a house with lots of kids but I love my owner and she loves me. We just aren't getting along in our relationship. Please help ~Kitty
Art_Critic Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 .....Your tooooo much... Are you sure that the bites are loves bites.. This might be a sign of some deeper issues..maybe it has to do with her weening when she was young..
Neptune Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 Get a bag of catnip and go for it. Get high and get wild and crazy. You may need to seek counseling though:rolleyes:
Author JS17 Posted January 8, 2006 Author Posted January 8, 2006 Are you sure that the bites are loves bites.. This might be a sign of some deeper issues..maybe it has to do with her weening when she was young.. Kitty: I swear I really love her and don't mean to hurt her. She doesn't know about any of my issues when I was younger. She adopted me when I was a year old. She knows that I'm afraid when people wear shoes around me. I think it's a product of my childhood development on the streets in the Bronx. I had a tough life. I had to hide and so that people wouldn't step on me. Now I'm afraid of people weaing shoes. Other than that she doesn't know much about my younger days. I sometimes wonder if that's why I abuse her by yelling at her and biting her eyelids. I wish I could stop and I know she wishes I could stop. She says it hurts but I don't want to hurt her, I just lash out when I'm not getting attention.
Author JS17 Posted January 8, 2006 Author Posted January 8, 2006 Get a bag of catnip and go for it. Get high and get wild and crazy. You may need to seek counseling though:rolleyes: Kitty: I'll admit it, I have a substance abuse problem too. I go crazy when I'm around catnip. Sometimes I even get so violent that I tear up the furniture and carpet. You're right I probably do need counseling. (Apparently JS17 needs some counceling too)
johan Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 From my cat: mvfjkfrfy875 yhfrfr;'olp112g9 Translation: You didn't mention your puking technique. Floor or furniture? Hard surfaces or carpet? Also, consider yourself lucky. My owner locks me and my sister on the back porch or in the basement at night and when he leaves. We never get a chance to harass him at night. We don't think it's that great, but he does seem to like us better because if we can't get into trouble, then we won't get into trouble. He thinks he has it all figured out. We get him back by shedding our fur all over everything. Oh, he also trims our claws, the bastard. Ever tried to tear up the corner of the couch with dull claws? Wasted effort.
Art_Critic Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 Kitty: I'll admit it, I have a substance abuse problem too. I go crazy when I'm around catnip. Sometimes I even get so violent that I tear up the furniture and carpet. You're right I probably do need counseling. (Apparently JS17 needs some counceling too) So your a nipaholic.. Not good.. Contact your local humane society to get into a 9 lives program.. They should be able to help with your addiction issue
Neptune Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 I don`t think you have tried hard enough at communication. You should puke up a hairball on the bedspread, that will get her attention;)
Author JS17 Posted January 8, 2006 Author Posted January 8, 2006 From my cat: mvfjkfrfy875 yhfrfr;'olp112g9 Translation: You didn't mention your puking technique. Floor or furniture? Hard surfaces or carpet? Also, consider yourself lucky. My owner locks me and my sister on the back porch or in the basement at night and when he leaves. We never get a chance to harass him at night. We don't think it's that great, but he does seem to like us better because if we can't get into trouble, then we won't get into trouble. He thinks he has it all figured out. We get him back by shedding our fur all over everything. Oh, he also trims our claws, the bastard. Ever tried to tear up the corner of the couch with dull claws? Wasted effort. Kitty: Thanks Johan's cat. I actually don't puke. Perhaps that's why I've gained so much weight. Are you a bulemic? My owner had a cat like that once, she told me about him. Hehe, she can't lock me out anywhere because she lives in a studio apartment. When she had to lock me in the bathroom because of a window being installed I screamed and scratched at the door the entire time. I'm pretty persistent. She tries to ignore me in the mornings but I'm the strongest willed cat you've ever met. She does try to cut my nails and she just waits until I'm in my deepest sleep to do it, otherwise I'm too strong for her. I'll tell you a secret, sometimes when I'm gullying on the back of her neck to wake her up I know my claws hurt her. I'm a little devil It also gives me a distinct advantage over my sister who does let JS cut her nails even though she yells the whole time. she's so annoying. Trust me, I do plenty of things to get at her. JS17: Both of these statements are very true... I actually don't puke. Trust me, I do plenty of things to get at her.
Author JS17 Posted January 8, 2006 Author Posted January 8, 2006 I don`t think you have tried hard enough at communication. You should puke up a hairball on the bedspread, that will get her attention;) Kitty: That's a good idea Neptune. I might try that. Thanks
Author JS17 Posted January 8, 2006 Author Posted January 8, 2006 Ok seriously guys, I don't know what to do about my cat. She's freakin driving me nuts with the amount of attention that she needs and the waking me up.
Neptune Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 My (former) girlfriend`s cat did the same thing and she just kept pushing the cat off the bed and finally it got over it.
Author JS17 Posted January 8, 2006 Author Posted January 8, 2006 No seriously, I've been doing that since I've had her. I try ignoring her but she's so persistent. The longest I've held out is 2 1/2 hours. I'm actually going to try a site with professional behaviorists....which I actually kind of am now.
Neptune Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 Wow! That cat looks...ugh....pleasingly plump:laugh:
JayKay Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 From my pug: Dude! Do what I do! I spin in circles and make snorting noises! Then I fart and fart and fart some more! Then I steal dirty laundry from the floor of her closet and drag it around the house! Dude! You gotta be obvious! Humans just don't get it unless you hit 'em with a clue-by-four. Seriously. They're dense. And I agree with the yak-on-the-floor technique; try that right next to owner's bed. She will step on it first thing in the morning. Or leave a steaming pile of poo next to the front door. Great wake-me-up!
Author JS17 Posted January 8, 2006 Author Posted January 8, 2006 Wow! That cat looks...ugh....pleasingly plump:laugh: Ok I'll be honest, I posted a picture of her that makes her look fat and mean. She really is the sweetest cat but she's just soooo needy.
niko1999 Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 Ok, first question. has she had her shots? Distemperment, believe it or not, is a wonderful shot. Next, is she fixed? If she hasnt been fixed, once she has been, she will settle down. Its not as noticeable as it is in male cats, but even still. My cat attacks toilet paper too, and will meow to wake me up at about 3 everytday, just to have me awake. Only good thing about that is that I am usually hungry at that time anyway, and Ill eat a bowl of cereal and she will calm down. And I know how you feel about not being able to gegt awy. I live in a studio apt as well with a very persisitant kitty. So I feel your pain perhaps better than most people. And another thing I have noticed that works as well. YOu can get it at your local Petco or Petsmart. Its a relaxant. For animals. Kind of like a kitty valium I guess. It has been my GOdsent since she has been in heat and I am wating for her to get fixed. Give it a try at night, you might find she wont wake you up as often. and when she jumps on the bed in the middle of the night, tossing her probably wont work. Just take her, cuddle up with er, and put your arm around her like youre holding a stuffed animal. Its all she wants, just a little love. and then she will start settling as well. Best of luck to you, I feel your pain.
Author JS17 Posted January 9, 2006 Author Posted January 9, 2006 Hey thanks niko1999, it's good to know I'm not alone. Good response but I'm not sure it would work for her. She's female, had her shots, and has been spayed. I got her from the pound but I think she may be part bluepoint siamese based on her coloring, snout, eyes, and well, personality. She's very smart and intense and in constant need of attention. It takes a special person to love a siamese cat She really is the sweetest and a really good cuddler I might try the sedative but i don't know how i feel about doping my cat up
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 Oh JS17 you crack me up. OC=other cat. Soooo funny. Have you tried sleeping with a squirt gun under your pillow? Nothing is a better behavior modifier for a cat than a squirt of water to the face.
Author JS17 Posted January 9, 2006 Author Posted January 9, 2006 I knew you would like this one jen_jen. I used to do the spray bottle when I first got her but she comes back. That was my next step, to try the water tricks again. The one thing I figured out recently is that she really responds to my yelling at her in a stern voice. I guess I hadn't done that since I got her but one night a few months ago she was really getting to me and I yelled at her. It keeps her away the longest. I swear, this is the kind of cat that a kid would love, you could dress her up and play rough with her and she keeps coming back. ah she kills me. she's sitting here right now yelling at me. 1
Outcast Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 I wouldn't do tranquilizers. They're not very good for cats. Whatever you do, be consistent. You may not even have to yell but speak firmly. I have known critters to respond to 'down' said very sternly. It takes a while to train cats but they will learn. If she's on your bed chomping you, put her on the floor and say 'down' firmly. Or 'no'. Pick a word an duse it. Do it every time she gets up on something she oughtn't be on and eventually she'll understand and obey 'down'.
Bogun Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 I'm surprised no ones suggested this.... Perhaps 3 pussy's in one apartment is too much.
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