she says shes lost feelings

[UT_longhorn]

its been 7 days of no contact. before she broke up with me she told me that she felt that something was "missing". she told me her feeling have changed. but also heard that she was feeling down after our breakup.

 

is she having break up remorse? is there still a chance for a second chance...or when a woman says she's lost her feelings then there is no chance?

[riobikini]

UT:

 

If I were the girl, I could answer that.

 

I would answer in the positive.

 

I would say, "Yes! There are feelings!", "Yes! I want to see you!", and "Yes! Let's try this again!"

 

But I'm not her and I'm having one of those days where I'd say "Yes!" to damn near anything right now, to see my own situation miraculously turn around.

 

So, I'm not the one to give you any advice today.

 

I can only tell you how I feel personally.

 

We all have weak moments.

 

And since I'm speaking from the center of alot of emotions right now, I can only say, "Hang tough, man, -and don't reach for the phone."

 

Here's a hug:

 

And keep posting, -it's 'therapy'.

 

-Rio

[UT_longhorn]

Rio...

 

How are things going in your world? I remember you were having a rough day a few days ago?

[slubberdegullion]

UT, at the risk of repeating myself another ponderous time, one cannot base a relationship on feelings alone. Feelings change all the time, and with the slightest breeze. If she was basing her relationship with you purely on feelings, then she hasn't yet learned that love is a decision, not a feeling.

 

And I was wondering how Rio was doing as well...

[riobikini]

Guys,

 

I have had a rough week but have managed to keep at least, part of my sanity and not call him.

 

A funny thing happened that triggered all this culminating into today's agenda.

 

A couple of days ago, (I didn't post this), I was checking my email and there in all the new mail was HIS last name.

 

It was actually his son's name (they're the same) -and I opened it.

 

I had blocked all the email addresses that we had corresponded by so I had not counted on seeing the name in my mail again.

 

It shocked me.

 

It was actually a forwarded email from his son, apparently to him, -but somehow, I got the email, too.

 

I don't want this to get confusing, so I'll just wrap this up by telling you what I think.

 

I think he learned he could not email me by using his OWN email addresses, so he 'borrowed' his son's email bearing the same name so I'd know it was him.

 

It had to have been a conspiratory effort, due to password access.

 

I've never been introduced to his son and they are close, although he lives far away.

 

And his son does not know me.

 

So his son had no reason to be emailing me.

 

I think it's just as I have concluded....he simply desperately wanted to make contact to see if I'd respond in some way.

 

I did.

 

I played along and pretended that I believed the email was truly sent by his son and forwarded back a very short, polite email back explaining that I believed he'd somehow mistakenly forwarded an email to me that was meant for (apparently) his father and asked him to please remove my address from his list.

 

I haven't heard anything back.

 

I'm sure his father was waiting to learn if I replied back, and the content of the response.

 

It was a childish, ridiculous attempt to make contact with me and certainly involved some, rather creative thinking on his part, but it was the fact that it blind-sighted me that made it difficult and brought on the gloom.

 

There have been phone calls, too, that do not show the caller...and I have avoided them like the plague.

 

If any were important family or business calls, they would have left a message.

 

I guess, all in all, under the circumstances, I am doing OK.

 

I have not lost my mind (totally), -yet, and people say I look no worse for the wear despite it, and seem to be doing great.

 

But what do they know? Besides, they're such wonderful liars! (Smile)

 

I realize I am lucky to have such caring people who lie so well just for my benefit.

 

I call them 'friends'.

 

(Smile, again)

 

Hope you both are feeling better.

 

It's really too bad that we can't all get together and have a good cry, a few beers, and throw really big darts at something....maybe silly emails that make me cry, -or whatever.

 

-Rio