pfeif216 Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 So I broke up w/ my ex about 5 mos. ago and I can not get over it...I've tried to talk myself out of it but its just not working.....I do feel a lot better now than i did a couple of mos. ago but i still cant get him out of my mind. Even last night I dragged my friends to a bar that I thought he was gonna be at at the end of the night....I also got texts from him on Christmas and New years so i think that maybe in the back of my head I feel that if he does see me he is gonna want me back....but I also heard that he is dating someone new I just feel pathetic that I still havent gotten over it and my appetite is still not fully back and its been 5 MONTHS!!!!!!.....any feedback would be greatly appreciated
Enygmatic Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 Well first of all...how old are you? 60?? how about 50?....no? oh well my mistake........I Asked because if you were within that range then definitely you should be acting like that since its very hard to get a partner at this stage of our lives. You need to realize that life is not over, he already moved on and has a new girl so what's stopping you from doing the same?. I think the problem is that you dont know how much you are worth.... most of times this happens when we have a low self steem. Just realize that he is not the only man on earth...you just got used to him. Most importantly realize that you are young and life keeps on going....realize that you are just wasting your time when you could be meeting someone new and better than your ex...... Stop thinking about him......you can say it is hard but if you dont set that goal to yourself then no one is gonna be able to help you. If memories is what hurts you the most then try to forget them.....by getting new ones. Hang out with your friends, meet new people, stay around, enjoy your life. Remember this quote: "No man is worth your tears, the one who is, would never make you cry"
Brittanyjean06 Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 yeah E is totally right! but why did you break up with him any way? were in the same position- i broke up with my ex and a week later he foudn someone new...hasn't talked to me for 5 months---i was soooooooo shocked- but i did write him mean emails right? so be careful what you ask for
Author pfeif216 Posted January 8, 2006 Author Posted January 8, 2006 Well im 26 and it is a gay relationship but i dont think the advice would change b/c of that.....it is my first "real" relationship w/ a guy(had many w/ girls but didnt count...lol) he is 35, we are 2 different stages in life....i know i have so many amazing qualities and do get hit on a lot by men & women but it just is so hard to get him out of my head...the worst is when i hear about him then i feel like i just go back to square 1 and i have to realize that we live in the same city, have some similar friends so i am going to run into him....well im just hoping this feeling goes away
Brittanyjean06 Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 being a gay relationship- no that doesn't change any of the advice i will give you- were all humans- we all feel Why did you break it off with this fella??
Author pfeif216 Posted January 9, 2006 Author Posted January 9, 2006 hey yeah that's what i was sayin...advice is advice, doesnt matter what sexual orientation a person is....so he broke up w/ me initially b/c he got scared(we moved REALLY fast) and we were in love and were together every day then all of a sudden he said something had changed and his feelings weren't as intense as they were and he didnt want to have to do this 9 mos. down the road.....he really is a good guy so i sort of saw where he was coming from 2 mos. after initial breakup..saw him out, he was drinkin a bit and told me he still loved me & missed me and may have made a mistake....so i thought we were on road to getting back together and he told me he wanted to see me but didnt want an emotional attachment at that time so i said screw that....i couldnt see him so casually and we barely talked since..and it sucks b/c now that he's dating someone new i guess that emotional attachment thing was just meant towards me......HEY thanks for listening
Lishy Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 Brit that pic is too scary - GET RID OF IT!!!!!!!!
Lishy Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 PF - Just because he is seeing somone new it doesnt mean that he will like them more - Maybe he is just on a rebound! It sounds to me that he likes you alot but the age difference means that he has been there and wore the t-shirt and knows how things can pan out - Maybe he is just scared? You sound so nice and I am sure you will meet someone else who can meet your needs and not be too scared to make the commitment you need!
Author pfeif216 Posted January 9, 2006 Author Posted January 9, 2006 Thanks for all the input, i greatly appreciate it....I know he was scared and I think in my head i know its over but why DO I STILL HAVE A PROBLEM W/ MY APPETITE???? Its been 5 mos. and its gotten better but i do suffer from anxiety but how do u get someone out of ur head??
Lishy Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 Anxiety and appetite go hand in hand - When i feel nervous and anxious I cannot eat a thing - I have literally gone a whole week on no food - Just water! You need to try to calm down and if that is not possible then maybe you need to see your doctor and see if he can help! Good luck honey
Author pfeif216 Posted January 10, 2006 Author Posted January 10, 2006 ur right but any advice of how to stop wondering what he's doin? sometimes if im drunk stop in a bar that he might be or want to text him(but don't thank god), i think his texting over the holidays sent me to "what if" thinking...i just want him out of my head and I also want to be able to go to his neighborhood w/o getting nautious
Lishy Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 The only way you will stop thinking about him is to meet someone who takes your mind off of him! And to meet someone who you dont compare with him will be hard!
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