Spicydicey449 Posted December 15, 2024 Posted December 15, 2024 SO To try and make a long story short. I'm 29, dating this guy (30). We dated about 4 years ago, but it didn't work out then (for non awful reasons). But we stayed in touch this whole time, clearly feelings were always present. So, were dating again. It's been almost 5 months. The relationship is official, I'm going to Christmas with him and his family, etc. It's going well. I'm so thrilled to be back with him, and he seems to feel the same. But we haven't said "I love you" yet. But the other night we were talking and he jokingly said that he "falls in love with every girl that's nice to him, but that I'm the only one". I was like oh ? How would you take that phrase? Is he easing into saying it?
Alpacalia Posted December 15, 2024 Posted December 15, 2024 He's jokingly saying it to test the waters and see how you would react. It could also just mean that he has strong feelings for you and has been thinking about saying those three words. Let it come naturally and don't push him. He likely wants to make sure he means it before saying it. Just continue to enjoy your relationship and let things progress naturally.
Gaeta Posted December 15, 2024 Posted December 15, 2024 Ohhhhh that would rub me the wrong way!! He falls in love with every girl that's nice to him as if his love is cheap and changes with the wind. If it's suppose to be a joke it's a very juvenile one. A 30 yo man should be able to joke in a way that elevates you, not poke at your ego. After 5 months it's time you tell him ILY if it's how you feel. If he's unsure or hesitate, please drop him and move on. A man knows way before 5 months if he's in love and when he feels it he wants to express it! 1
Gebidozo Posted December 16, 2024 Posted December 16, 2024 While I think that 5 months could be too early for an “I love you” for some people, I also find his wording strange. If it was a joke, it was a tasteless one. If he was serious about falling in love with every girl who’s nice to him, then obviously he’s just an immature, needy kid. I do think he was joking, though.
fadi20 Posted December 17, 2024 Posted December 17, 2024 It sounds like you have a strong connection, and his comment might be his way of hinting at deeper feelings. When he said, "I fall in love with every girl that's nice to me, but you're the only one," he could be testing the waters or easing into saying, "I love you." Take it as a positive sign that he's thinking about love with you. If you feel comfortable, consider discussing how you both feel to understand each other's emotions better. Trust your instincts and move at a pace that feels right for both of you.
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