incognito Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 after telling my ex on christmas day to leave me alone, I finally got through yesterday and he accepts that it's over (he's been contacting me almost daily since) ....I spent all that time being angry w/ him, trying to get him to go away and leave me alone....and now that he accepts it's over, I'm sad I still don't want to be w/ him, but I still love him and now I'm sad
riobikini Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 A link for you: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t78378/ (Smile)...and a hug: -Rio
Author incognito Posted January 8, 2006 Author Posted January 8, 2006 how can I go from anger, hurt and hate??? while he is contacting me....to feeling like I want to die when he finally stops. At times I feel nothing...just completely empty.....and then at other times I miss him and love him and want to be w/ him.....and then again I can change to anger and hurt
riobikini Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 ~incognito~:, Here are some recent thread links relating to the frequent mood-switching that often occurs. Hope they help you. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=652719#post652719 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=659934#post659934 -Rio
Author incognito Posted January 9, 2006 Author Posted January 9, 2006 How much do I suck...I stopped ignoring him and answered...
riobikini Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 No one blames you for being human. But don't jerk each other around. Pee on your territory again and try once again at protecting it, (from yourself, this time!). That is, -unless, you have other plans to really work things out. (Smile) -Rio
Author incognito Posted January 9, 2006 Author Posted January 9, 2006 I do! Cause I know me talking to him makes him feel better! I know that!!! And I still caved....he just knows how to get to me, he's relentless, and I am freaking weak. and I am pretty sure I don't even want to be w/ him anymore???WTH? Does that even make sense? I am tired of the fighting, the going in circles, I can logically see that it won't work between us...and yet I still can't let go of him. Or move on. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
kjdriver Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 I have been going through mood changes myself. The first two days I felt like I was dying. I have lost 9 pounds since Christmas. I call it the break up diet. Then I felt reassured, then calm and now, I dont know how the hell I feel. lol. I know I feel empty inside. I feel that all day long. Worst times are at night at bedtime. I miss the routine, the smell, everything. You obviosly have love for him or you wouldn't feel comforted by him and his calls. It makes us feel good to feel we are wanted. He probably stopped contacting you because he felt he wasn't getting anywhere. He is probably still going crazy in his mind wondering what you are doing and if you are thinking about him, etc, etc. Because I have kids with mine I can't distance myself from him when I need to think or I want to be alone. I need to regain control of my life. Mayby he is feeling the same thing. The dumped feels like they have no control and the dumper has all the control.
skeptik224 Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 Hey, Rio....I checked out your link, and I can admit that you just put me in tears.
Author incognito Posted January 10, 2006 Author Posted January 10, 2006 Oh...so much for NC!!! I have been on the phone all day long I think it has been good...to help us understand some things. We are still not getting back together though. And I don't know where we go from here
riobikini Posted January 11, 2006 Posted January 11, 2006 Skeptic, RE: Hey, Rio....I checked out your link, and I can admit that you just put me in tears. Skeptik, I didn't mean to make you cry, but if they were good tears, then I'm glad you let some of them go! Everybody knows tears are a well-known beneficial fluid for cleansing the eyes: we always seem to see much better after we cry. (Smile) Take care. Yours, -Rio
Author incognito Posted January 11, 2006 Author Posted January 11, 2006 This thread should be shut down and locked up since I have been in constant contact w/ him since starting this!!! LOL....(laughing through my frustration )
riobikini Posted January 11, 2006 Posted January 11, 2006 RE: incognito: "This thread should be shut down and locked up since I have been in constant contact w/ him since starting this!!! LOL....(laughing through my frustration ) " Nahhh! -you need a place to vent. Besides you've realized you can't change HIS mind...only yours. That's called P-R-O-G-R-E-S-S. Hang in there! (Smile) -Rio
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