406lx Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 I recently met a very attractive lady who I have been out with a few times and told her the other night that it would be nice if we could be more than just friends. She replied that she didnt feel the same way and that we wouldnt work because amongst a few other things she felt I didnt have a strong enough personality to deal with her as she was a very difficult person. While I accept that this is probably the case, she also mentioned that what was offputting was that she felt that I sometimes acted in a way that was offputting and out of character. She preceeded to explain that she felt me saying that certain women on the tv were hot didnt suit my image (although she did also comment on a few guys). She also pointed out that I mentioned a couple of times about a few of my possesions I have collected although again she also admitted she name dropped regarding certain things she also posessed. I did admit that I was guilty of this, however, what I said was meant in only a joking way, i wasnt trying to demean her or women or try and boast about the things I am fortunate to have. What puzzles me is that while she pointed these "flaws" ou, it would seem by her own admittance she is also guilty off it aswell (double standards?) It also didnt help the fact that she came out of a bad relationship a year ago and reading between the lines, she now looks out for men who dont display any of the traits her ex did, i.e if someone said something it would be a case of "he used to say or do that" Maybe she was looking for excuses and trying to let me down gently, perhaps, just seems maybe I was being compared in someway for her ex's treatment of her, I am not perfect and noone is. I appreciate the fact that my comments may have appeared to rule her out as a partner, but I feel that if I would have worshipped her she would of accused me of being too needy. Your comments are welcome
bluechocolate Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 She replied that she didnt feel the same way and that we wouldnt work because amongst a few other things she felt I didnt have a strong enough personality to deal with her as she was a very difficult person. That's really all you need to know and in fact she should have stopped at 'I don't feel the same way'. Her going on to then point out specifics as to why was an act of cruelty that wasn't called for. She's sending you a very clear message. I wouldn't call her again.
helena abadi Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 yup, she said she doesn't feel the same way. doesn't come any more crystal than that.
cygny Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 she's a bitch just because she's not interested in this guy? oh-kayyyyy.... i wouldn't take it personally. but it does sound like you said some things that were off-putting. live and learn.
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