loony Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 He probably wanted someone more attractive, Don't think this, you are putting yourself down even though you don't know the whole story. Maybe he was shy and nervous and also didn't want to go on a date. Sometimes you get rejected even though you are attractive, it's not always about physical attraction, people also need to feel intellectual or emotional attraction, sometimes they are too nervous themselves to ask you, maybe you were too attractive. In any case, try to work on your shyness, because it's something that can sabotage a lot of good things. A 180° turn is not necessary, being shy is not the worst thing, sometimes it can be quite attractive, but when you're so shy and nervous that it inhibits your personality and your expression to other people it's bad. If it keeps you too often from doing things that you want to do, it must leave you with a sense of unfulfillment. You might consider working on it to achieve a greater balance and happiness in your life.
cygny Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 well that explains his weirdness. i would feel awkward too if my boss was present and involved in the setup. no wonder. glad you can see it for what it was.
newbby Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 buzzie, i have been on alot of blind dates and i always expect them to pay for me. this condition is agreed on before i finalise the dating arrangements. it sounds as though he also agreed to this, in fact OFFERED it, so yes that was kind of rude. ok, i think you do realise that maybe you came off as abit unconfident and insecure asking your boss etc to be present. the one blind date that i really never wanted to see again, was one who initially asked for our mutual friends to be present, then finally agreed to meeting me alone. it made me think before i even met him, that he was a pussy. i think it is good to be safe and meet in a public place only and make sure you only blind date people who your good friends know very well. just keep dating, confidence will come with practise. it took me a while, but now i love blind dates.
Blackard Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 hey, thanks for the tip. i was wondering what i was doing wrong. . I don't think its that. I think its your attitude that turns them away, darlin. ;p ...and noone said anything about running up to strange guys and offering to buy them coffee. You can try it if you like, but someone may call a cop. I was talking about expectations and effort on a date by BOTH people. ;p Second, lets not play the "we women spend millions to look beautiful for our dates" game. Its nonsense, its been debunked a number of times, on a number of boards....even by a lot of women. Its hogways and it's a lazy excuse. Same with the "women make less then men" nonsense. Its not 1955 anymore, this is not a Disney cartoon. You want a relationship, you put in some effort. Batting your eyes and saying, "but I look pretty" is not quite good enough...but I guess thats a lesson you will learn on your own.
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