Worried32 Posted November 30, 2024 Posted November 30, 2024 (edited) I am married with a child and a male who is also married and has a child the same age has started messaging me. I met him in 2018 through a mutual friend when both single. Nothing happened and have only met two or three times. I’ve been a little uncomfortable with him messaging me lately. I’m happy to have the odd message but it’s becoming almost daily and mostly I don’t even reply but just will occasionally to be polite and we just talk about our children. He always asks for a selfie and I say no. He recently asked if I wanted to go for a walk with him and the kids. I don’t really care to as I hardly know him anyway but I declined politely saying I’m not sure if it’s appropriate. He asked why and said he wasn’t sure if I had a lot of support as my partner works out of town so was just being nice. I said his partner may not care but I kind of get if she would as she has just had a baby and you’re catching up with a girl you don’t know that well and she doesn’t know at all. Plus I don’t want to cause issues in my own relationship although I’m not sure if my husband would care. I believe I did the right thing but could he have just been genuinely trying to be nice? I guess I don’t know why he is trying to start a friendship with me as we only met twice six years ago but suspect there is a level of attraction even if he’d never act on it. Edited November 30, 2024 by Worried32 More information
Gaeta Posted November 30, 2024 Posted November 30, 2024 8 hours ago, Worried32 said: He always asks for a selfie and I say no He's looking to seduce you. Block and delete. This is not about being polite anymore. This is completely innapropriate behavior on his part but also on *your* part since his selfie request. How would you feel if your husband sent selfies to other women! C'mon! 3
BaileyB Posted December 2, 2024 Posted December 2, 2024 On 11/29/2024 at 11:07 PM, Worried32 said: I guess I don’t know why he is trying to start a friendship with me as we only met twice six years ago but suspect there is a level of attraction even if he’d never act on it. Who says he will never act on it? He has the choice to go for a beer with a buddy or go on a “date” with another woman and your children… His choice says a lot about his intention. I would say that it’s highly inappropriate for you to socialize with your children when you are both married - I think you made the right decision. Personally, I would ask him to stop texting as it’s disruptive to my work and my family life. 2
stillafool Posted December 2, 2024 Posted December 2, 2024 Highly inappropriate. Leave this guy alone and concentrate on you husband and kids. 2
ChrisTheCat Posted December 21, 2024 Posted December 21, 2024 C'mon, you know that this is a slippery slope - stop it now. 1
Georgia46 Posted December 21, 2024 Posted December 21, 2024 It depends if you want to do what’s right or if you want to slide down the slippery slope I guess.. 1
Chris1953 Posted January 4 Posted January 4 I suggest you block him and he can't send you messages. I think he is a predator and you shouldn't do anything with him, because you will break up your family and you will regret it a lot. Stay away from people like that.!!
Decorum Posted January 17 Posted January 17 Why would this even, be a question to you? I ask that in all sincerity. It seems like a no brainer to me. People like this project a sense of normalcy for the purpose of deniability. Then you are trying to defend your boundary. Smh. Just push back and block him. That's my opinion.
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