Mother in law treats our daughter different than the other grandkids!!!

[lilmoma1973]

My mil was outside waiting for ss to get ready ..SS came in and said Mawmaw is outside to my daughter go outside and see her.. I said to ss that if she wants to see her granddaughter ,she can come in here too cold outside!!! He continued to get ready and then went out the door ,a few minutes later she called the house, and i didn't reconize the number and she left a message saying "Hey insert name , she hesitated and said i didn't know you was running around inside ,i was outside messing with insert name that i am watching.. Call me when you get this message .. Maw Maw loves you... How she didn't know that we wasn't here ? My car was here ss must have told her she would have to go in there... It amazes me that she continues to ignore her granddaughter all the time.. When she comes and get ss ,she does this alot not coming in to say hi .. Most of the time she drops him off and leaves!!! To my knowledge she does this only to mine and h daughter noone else's .. She don't like me and beginning to think she don't care to much for her because she looks alot like me.. What do people think is the reason she can be like that to her ? Almost like she don't care to much for her..

[itisi]

My mil is very similar....doesn't pay any attention to my daughter but is always doing things for my boys. She was like that with her kids...my wife got very little attention from her while her brother got anything he wanted.

[bab]

You said she didn't like you, is it possible that she didn't want to come inside so that she could avoid you, not avoid your daughter? Also, I'm a bit curious why she is picking up your SS, but not your daughter. Shouldn't she have them both?

[CherryBomb11]

Sounds like shes playing favorites. You said your MIL doesn't like you, then its possible because she doesn't, she is taking it out on your child by not treating her like the other kids etc. Its pretty childish on her part. Have you come right out and asked her why she does this? if not, it would be interesting to see what she had to say. How does your husband feel about it? Does it bother him that his own mother treats his daughter this way? Or does he find it to be no big deal?

[lilmoma1973]

You said she didn't like you, is it possible that she didn't want to come inside so that she could avoid you, not avoid your daughter? Also, I'm a bit curious why she is picking up your SS, but not your daughter. Shouldn't she have them both?

 

My daughter doesn't really care to much for her ,because she has always treated her this way.. SS has always been number one i her eyes and she makes it known!! My mil smokes and daughter hates it so she won't go with her says it stinks..SS goes with grandmother because she lets him get by with things!! When my ss got caught for porn he was made cause we told grandmother and said he didn't want her to know.. Of course not cause she thinks he is perfect..My mil stated to me from the very beginning that the bio mom and her grandson will always come first in her life no matter what happens with his son's life.. I believe it too ,because of the way she has shunned my daughter.. My h sees it too!!!!

[bab]

Well, it certainly does sound like she is being unfair. Unfortunately, we can't pick our relatives. You should have your husband talk to her. Both children are her grandchildren, and make sure she knows that she can't treat them differently.

 

Also, try and arrange some time for them to be together that she'd have to specifically turn down. It's easy for her to just not include your daughter, but if she's got an invite to go ice skating (or something) with the two of you, turning it down might be harder for her. Plan "girl afternoons" for the three of you. Doing something indoors in public should help with your daughter not having to be exposed to the smoke.

 

Kids are resilent. There were favorites in our family as well, but it all worked out. My brother was Mamaw's favorite, my sister was Dad's favorite, and I'm Mom's favorite, they tried to hide it, but we weren't stupid, and we all felt loved by all of them. Mamaw was there for my brother because when my mom and her first husband separated, mamaw had a huge hand in raising him. Is there possibly a similar thing going on with your SS?

[lilmoma1973]

 

I can remember something my mil said to my friend when she came to my wedding that my friend looked like she was having twins .. My MIL can be mean so nothing she says and does surprizes me anymore.. My H told his mother the next time she came to get his son how about going inside and telling her granddaughter hey.. My mil said she had the little boy with her and didn't want to wake him up .. She could have poked her head in the door and siad hey and left him outside in the car for a few mins.. This isn't even her blood... You all are probably right because she don't like me she is punishing my daughter but you know the saying what goes around comes around.. Another thing i noticed yesterday on her shelf that our family picture that we gave for christmas was on the lower shelf where you could hardly see it,but ss picture was out where it could be.. Ialso have noticed that since h and his parents are back talking things have gotten bad with me and him.. We quit talking to them for almost a yr cause they wanted us to split and was always causing conflict on disciplining ss .. Now back to the way it was.. Inlaws i really hate them