TheRock Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 On Wednesday, a girl I’ve been seeing 1-2 times a week for a month called me and sent me a few emails. In her last e-mail, we decided to go out Friday Night. She asked what my ideas were. I sent an email back and said a few funny things in it, but they might have seemed a little sarcastic and one of them might not have been taken the right way by her as it had a slight sexual overtone. We’ve only kissed and petted for the last month. She asked what my ideas were. I sent a list of options- "play naked twister...nah...someone could get hurt and then we'd have a lot of explaining to do... LOL". Then I gave a few realistic examples... Concert, comedy show etc and asked for her input. I didn't hear from her again. Granted, she is a Very Busy person and sometimes doesn't get back right away, but usually at least texts\emails me back. On Friday, DATE DAY, I called and got her voicemail. Assuming we were still on, I said “Hey, it's me. Hope you're having a great day. How's dinner at 7:30then hit the comedy show. It'll be fun. I promise their jokes will be much better than my email was the other day! Hope you didn't take any of it the wrong way. Call or text me and let me know. I can't wait to see you tonight! She sent a text right back to me saying she was sick for the last 2 days with the flu, is on antibiotics and there was no way she could go out tonight. She said she was sorry. I don't want to seem insensitive or be a jerk and not call to see how she's feeling, but also don't know if she's legitimately sick or was turned off by the email and is now trying to let me down easy. How long should I wait to call her and see how she's feeling?
Lucasarts Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 dont take it too seriously dude, she probably was sick tho if she keeps avoiding/excusing herself from any future date plans then obviously something is wrong and then you should confront it. an email with humor and some sexual overtone wouldnt turn a women off so i think you're fine
Author TheRock Posted January 7, 2006 Author Posted January 7, 2006 Last Monday, I came across a picture on Match.com and viewed the girls profile. I kind of felt weird after seeing it. Turned out it's the girl I'm seeing's pic. Didn't even know she was on it, but I think she has the ability to see who viewed her profile. I KNOW that she logged onto Match this past Wed. I didn't mention I saw it, and don't know if she knows, but that's when she stopped calling...Should I say that I saw it?
gfto Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 the twister joke was a huge mistake. If you had been seeing her for more than a few months and you two were exclusive, then it would be fine. But not after only one month of seeing her once or twice per week. Usually, a broken date after only one month of dating means she isn't that interested in you. The reality is that you don't know if she was sick, or if she just doesn't dig you. I'd just send a text message, saying "I hope you feel better soon." Then, let it go. If she's interested, she'll call.
Author TheRock Posted January 9, 2006 Author Posted January 9, 2006 Lisa and I have a Mutual Friend named Jim. Jim thinks her behavior is odd too. He asked if I wanted him to intervene and find out what happened. I said not as of right now. Should I have him ask her what's wrong. Obviously she's very turned off by something I did or said. She was all over me like ants on honey, and kept turning it up a notch, then BAM!!! Stopped calling out of the blue after over a month of dating. Weird... Should I have him ask or should I just e-mail her with my honest heart-felt feelings of the relationship?
cygny Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 i would just back off, call her in a few days and just ask how she's feeling. try to pick up if she's excited to hear from you. if so, ask her out again. if she seems distant, don't ask her out, just be polite and back off. if she's really interested, she won't let you go so easy. but if you are too interested, she'll back off. don't mention the email again, you already apologised.
Author TheRock Posted January 9, 2006 Author Posted January 9, 2006 I've had my profile on Match.com for a long time. I put my information on, but changed my hometown to the one next door to me. I never put a picture on it. I've never even contacted anyone. Just did it for kicks. Last week, I received an e-mail from Match.com of my Matches. Lisa, the girl I've been seeing for a little over a month, was one of them. I didn't expect it and I clicked on her picture without even thinking, then clicked out of it out of respect. I think she can tell I viewed it or at least suspects I did, as my name or pic doesn't appear, just my B-day and biographical info. I never mentioned it. The next day, she asked what I had in mind for the weekend with her. I replied in a joking way she might have been offended by. I gave her a list of ideas and asked for her if she had a preference: 1-Play naked twister...Nah..Someone could get hurt then we'd have some explaining to do! 2-Dinner and Live Band 3- Night Skiing 4-Dinner and Comedy Club. She aslo asked what my B-day was. Then, I never heard from her again. Don't know if she was turned off by the joke or thinks I invaded her privacy by clicking on her pic. I apologized for the jokes if she took them the wrong way. Don;t want to wait too long. What to do......?
cygny Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 chill out. you did nothing wrong. if you do anything more now you come across as needy. by the way, would you mind taking a look at the thread i started a few days ago? i need a response from a guy. thanks!
Magister Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 How is looking at her match.com profile invading her privacy? Either stop making jokes or stop apologizing for them. People who apologize too often (especially men) are disgusting. Besides, if the jokes make her uncomfortable, it is not the end of the world. People can actually like being uncomfortable. They call it having butterflies in the stomach.
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