Groovy Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 This is a superficial post, I don't have any real problems or issues- so shoot me. For once I have picks on who to date. I need to figure it out on my own but if this were you choice HONESTLY who would you pick. A) A man 14 years older, divorced with kids full grown but a nice guy and a jet plane he can ride you around in (romantic). B) A real smart guy your age, handsome with things in common but back pain so bad he is practically disabled in his 30's. C) A sweet guy who shares similar interests too, is active and healthy, no kids, never married but is a binge drinker on weekends.
Walk Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 I don't know.. What's important to you? If you love rock climbing and mountain biking, then I'd say B is probably not the best choice. If you have more in common with the high life, and jet setting crowd, hang out with A. And if you're the party type, who loves to go out on the weekends. Go for C. Why not date all three? Personally I'd stay away from the older guy, but mostly because men die earlier then women. (B) I'm too active to ever truly be happy with someone who couldn't at least partially share in that. And I'm not into parties, or binge drinking, so I don't think C and I would have much in common...
Art_Critic Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 neither sound dateable to me.. 1 & 3 sound like losers.. maybe #2.. he isn't a loser like the others.. you would just have to get used to being with someone who is almost handicaped Look for better dates than these.. pass on all 3
Cupcake Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 I'd choose (A) because he seems more independent than the others.
Fun2BMe Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 neither sound dateable to me.. 1 & 3 sound like losers.. maybe #2.. he isn't a loser like the others.. you would just have to get used to being with someone who is almost handicaped Look for better dates than these.. pass on all 3 That's severely critical. I don't think 1 and 3 sound like losers. 1 sounds like he's got his sh*t together. Unlike 2 he has no back problems so that's not an issue. He has a jet plane we could travel with. Am I missing something here? 3 is sweet and his only bad quality is that he drinks on weekends...Hmmm I think most people do. So he likes happy hour, therefore a loser? #2 would be the least desirable. You couldn't rock climb and do a lot of other activities and if physical activity and travel (which 1 and 3 could provide) are important, then 2 would be a no. Out of 1 and 3....1 sounds better because he doesn't binge drink and we could have romantic flights in his plane instead of having to deal with passing out, hangovers and back problems.
Lifestream Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 This is a superficial post, I don't have any real problems or issues- so shoot me. For once I have picks on who to date. I need to figure it out on my own but if this were you choice HONESTLY who would you pick. A) A man 14 years older, divorced with kids full grown but a nice guy and a jet plane he can ride you around in (romantic). B) A real smart guy your age, handsome with things in common but back pain so bad he is practically disabled in his 30's. C) A sweet guy who shares similar interests too, is active and healthy, no kids, never married but is a binge drinker on weekends. The choices really don't delve into what kind of person each candidate is. Some things are implied, but there is nothing truly definitive here.
Tangerina Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 yah, the info is kinda superficial but I guess I would go with C.... the drinking woldn't make me too happy but hey, I am in college so this pretty much describes anyone who would be worth dating anyways... my BF kinda fits that description, especially the positive things but he is a bit more into drugs than I would ever be (nothing crazy, but he experiements on occasion, and does moderate amounts of the lighter stuff regularily) but it doesn't get in the way of our relationship so it isn't a problem.
Author Groovy Posted January 8, 2006 Author Posted January 8, 2006 I agree, it is superficial because I know no one real well. I have some real time limits and had a lot more people ask me out than normal in a week! The guy in B felt perfect until I found out he has a severe back issue. I am pretty active and like to work out with people I date, so that sucks. I will just need to date all 3 and figure out what I want, which may be no one:p .
Mary3 Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 I would not pick A B or C. But if I had to pick : Maybe B but definately not C. A. would get boring after a short while...
Adunaphel Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 If I was not in a hurry to be in a serious, committed relationship, and I was just interested in dating a nice guy for a while, I would pick B). I have a soft spot for smart people. Is A) anything else than 'a nice guy'? Is he intelligent, smart, sweet?
Author Groovy Posted January 8, 2006 Author Posted January 8, 2006 I'd say he is ambitious, sweet and on his feet financially.
Deirdre Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 i wouuldnt pick A, simply because i dont like dating guys much older than me. seriously, no more than 10 years older. in fact i would prefer my age, or at most a year or two older. either B or C is fine with me.
Adunaphel Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 I'd say he is ambitious, sweet and on his feet financially. I think I might pick him if he didn't have a jet plane. Unless B) is also sweet. I hope you will have fun while dating and that you'll find the guy that is most suitable for you, be him one of these three gentlemen or not!
Fun2BMe Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 I would not pick A B or C. But if I had to pick : Maybe B but definately not C. A. would get boring after a short while... I'd think someone who gets drunk on weekends would get boring faster than a man who owned a jet plane i.e. likes to travel, do things other than drinking beer in front of the tv.
Giselle Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 I would go with B :-). Personality overrules looks, handicaps, and most of the time age for me. I couldn't deal with A having kids, and I am probably the one college student on the face of the earth who can't stand drinking or people who do it excessively, as is the case with C.
Author Groovy Posted January 22, 2006 Author Posted January 22, 2006 This is a superficial post, I don't have any real problems or issues- so shoot me. For once I have picks on who to date. I need to figure it out on my own but if this were you choice HONESTLY who would you pick. A) A man 14 years older, divorced with kids full grown but a nice guy and a jet plane he can ride you around in (romantic). B) A real smart guy your age, handsome with things in common but back pain so bad he is practically disabled in his 30's. C) A sweet guy who shares similar interests too, is active and healthy, no kids, never married but is a binge drinker on weekends. O.K, so I am still dating all 3 and am exhausted physically and emotionally. I found out... A) Just got divorced this month and seems a little fragile. He likes me more than I like him and that makes me a little uncomfortable. It seems too fast for 2 weeks. B) I hardly see as he always has other plans and lives 30-45 mins away. I'd like to get to know him more but it seems B and C are cramming in a lot more time to get to know a person. C) Was my fav until today. Aside from his drinking, I liked everything about him. He lives simple, is the only one with his own house. My ex-fiance was a gold digger so I like a man with no debt and some assets. I have more common interests and life goals with him than anyone. And we were friends for 4 months before I met these other people recently. I guess that's why I am more hurt. And of course he is the alcoholic to cancel it all out. This is more of a post to b*tch. All went well until he called me 3 hours late for a date, simply because he was drinking. I was hurt and decided to break it off and said lets be friends. He goes to the same dog park down the street at 5:00 with a regular crowd that are my friends too that I enjoy seeing, I wanted to be amicable. I hung up and he called me back. Like an idiot I picked up the phone and he was upset asking me to give him another chance, he's a nice guy, he really likes me, blah blah. So I thought, whatever he's drunk....just agree and blow him off later or talk to him sober. No point in getting through now. I'm sitting on my porch with my screen door and my dog is ready to jump out of his skin. I hear someone approaching my house and it is this guy, drunk with flowers. I took them and asked him to come inside until he sobered up. He said no thanks and I asked him to give me his keys. He said no and left. And he was blitzed. But force on a drunk man is a mistake for a single gal in her PJs in the middle of the night alone. My friend said give him one more chance and then if this happens again ditch him. I did like him the most but I am seeing a major red flag. I know for some chics this is normal crap but it irks me. It sounds silly too but my dog was really upset and I wonder if he can sense things I can't. That maybe if my happy go lucky dog is leery I should be too:(
honeybunch2k5 Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 I would choose A. He's a nice guy, and for whatever reason I like guys older than myself. They seem to play less games. I wouldnt mind the kids even though they'd be my age or older.
crazy_grl Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 I was hurt and decided to break it off and said lets be friends. He goes to the same dog park down the street at 5:00 with a regular crowd that are my friends too that I enjoy seeing, I wanted to be amicable. I hung up and he called me back. Like an idiot I picked up the phone and he was upset asking me to give him another chance, he's a nice guy, he really likes me, blah blah. So I thought, whatever he's drunk....just agree and blow him off later or talk to him sober. No point in getting through now. I'm sitting on my porch with my screen door and my dog is ready to jump out of his skin. I hear someone approaching my house and it is this guy, drunk with flowers. I took them and asked him to come inside until he sobered up. He said no thanks and I asked him to give me his keys. He said no and left. And he was blitzed. But force on a drunk man is a mistake for a single gal in her PJs in the middle of the night alone. Ugh... that sounds aweful for you. My friend said give him one more chance and then if this happens again ditch him. There's no reason to give him another chance. He has alcohol problems, and when you get involved with people who have drug/alcohol problems, you only end up bringing those problems into your life. Spare yourself the drama, headaches, and heartaches and stay away. Better yet, tell him if he manages to get himself together to give you a call, but you're not interested until then.
clandestinidad Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 I would'ove picked A, b/c of everything except his plane...planes are dangerous, but all the other stuff about him was good...until you mentioned that he's JUST recently divorced and seems to have totally fallen for you in 2 weeks...... so now I say none of them...you can do better
Author Groovy Posted January 24, 2006 Author Posted January 24, 2006 OK, well here is a good way to choose........ Do a public criminal records search and find out that A, the nice guy who seems really mature and treats you like a queen is a WIFE BEATER! He has 5 counts aggravated assualt to his wife from his prior marraige. Sorry, I am not taking any chance on that. A drunk with flowers is nothing in comparison, who knew he'd be the winner with the least offenses:lmao: . The guy with the back issue is all pissed off at me because he made tentative plans so I ditched them for some more concrete ones, now he is not calling me. And what am I doing? Enjoying my new puppy, a glass of wine and some good TV! Yee Haw! Lol....
tinktronik Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 This is a superficial post, I don't have any real problems or issues- so shoot me. For once I have picks on who to date. I need to figure it out on my own but if this were you choice HONESTLY who would you pick. A) A man 14 years older, divorced with kids full grown but a nice guy and a jet plane he can ride you around in (romantic). B) A real smart guy your age, handsome with things in common but back pain so bad he is practically disabled in his 30's. C) A sweet guy who shares similar interests too, is active and healthy, no kids, never married but is a binge drinker on weekends. Pick the one who's mother only calls once every few weeks.
Author Groovy Posted January 24, 2006 Author Posted January 24, 2006 Dude, read my post! Pick the one whose not a wife beater or some either guy with a huge criminal record! Yeesh.
clandestinidad Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 Am I reading that correctly!?!? You looked up the recently divorced one who was crazy about you, and found out that $hit?!?!?
Author Groovy Posted January 24, 2006 Author Posted January 24, 2006 Yup girlfriend, you got that right. The cool guy who treats me like a queen is a wife beater. Hmm, don't think I'll stick around to find out whether she instigates or he causes it. He has 5 counts of assault on battery on this woman in the past 20 years. Sometimes on the surface these guys seem like the nicest guys on earth, I've seen it before (including my brother). Hurray for free records on-line! Bummer, sort of depressed on it all in all honesty and soaking up the info while I enjoy some red wine. I liked him as more than just a date. He became my friend and I am just really dissapointed in him.
lilmoma1973 Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 I would go with A because he is a romantic and the others don't interest me!!
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