Deveryn Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 This is sort of a continuation to my last post.. If anyone needs to read the full story they can at http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=666690#post666690 but this post will give you the basics of this whole mess I need help. My girlfriend and I have been having small fights over this one big issue and today we had a huge fight where she ended up hanging up the phone. We've been fighting about an issue that started when she began to hang out with these two guy friends, who I view as disrespecting her and she doesn't. They have made comments about her being a "lazy ***" and calling her their "dishwasher".They also commented about how they wondered what her breasts tasted like (as a joke, apparently). Yesterday I was on the phone with her and she was in the car with these two guys and one makes the comment about me saying "Mike needs to get off the phone now or else his mom will yell at him." to which she just said "That's not funny"...In my opinion, I don't think that would be enough to make the guy stop making disrespectful comments, but she said she "diffused it" and "dealt with it". (Later on she said she would've said more about it afterwards to him, but I don't remember her ever saying when..she took it to offense that I asked her if she would've dealt with it later since she thought of it as a trust issue..I had no idea she would've said anything later when the argument started) Today we got in a fight and I tried to tell her that I felt they were disrespecting her a lot, and that it was totally wrong of them to make those comments. She said the comments about her were all jokes, and that the one towards me "just needs to be let go". Do you think she handled it well? Should I just have let it go? I'm so confused =( I was so jumbled in my thoughts that she felt like I was "pushing her into a corner" by bringing this up, saying that I was accusing her of not handling it right, even though I only ment to say how it was disrespectful of him..without critisizing her. She said she would've "handled it" later but she feels I don't have enough trust in her. I am so lost Was I wrong to bring this up? Should I have let it go? Was it wrong for me to question whether or not she handled it right (even though I didn't even mean to, she just took it as that... I probably didn't express my thoughts well enough) I'm sorry for the long post, it's probably hard to understand because my thoughts are racing a mile a minute right now, but I'm in desperate need of help.
dnm1010 Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 hey there, im sorry you two had a fight... when is the next time u see her? i mean this is one of the reasons long distance relationships are hard. i think you are jelous of her, regardless of the fact that you think shes being disrespected. i think you need some time together. how often does she hang out with those guys? honestly, i would never let my friends make my bf feel threatened, or disrespect me.
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